I do like how the BW approach to things can be flexible around what works for lo and parents. And the whole respect & understanding makes sense on so many levels, I mean thats what you want to teach your lo as they grow so makes sense to 'practice what you (will) preach'.
I still need to have a good sit down and read my BW book as Im yet to do that, so far its been a quick skim read to get the main points. My aim is to do that today while DH takes care of a few things -hopefully.
I assume you're not a NZer but live here?
So you undertsand my stresses with the whole not BF and now bottle feeding. I came home from hosp. with grazed nipples & then when milk came in was so engorged lo couldnt latch - no amount of expressing or heat or anything would help. so I had to express to feed him. Eventually nipple shells worked but grazed nipples soon turned to severly cracked nipples. This what I think caused the mastitis. The big problem started when he redused the breast all of a sudden, my let down was slow and the bottle obviously wasnt so he seemed to make his choice on what he wanted. We perservered but I was in so much agony from the infection & cracked nipples that it just caused sooo much stress on me which then he picked up. This was all in my 1st 3wks also. My midwife visited and suggested to go with bottle, she had concerns that I would end up with PND and to be honest she may have been right. But I still feel bad about it and now wonder wether I should've gone to a lactation specialist?
You just feel soo much pessure from everyone to BF its hard to enjoy bottle feeding as you feel like a failure. What made me do it was support from my mum & midwife as they had seen what I had been through & was going through an lo was doing better on the bottle. I didnt do labour (was elective c-section as lo was footling breech) the most painful & hardest part of all so far has been around BF. I think my boobs (this time around) are for ornamental purposes only!!)
Might look at doing what you are around the nap time. Good idea for the long run.
Thanks for lending your ear