What happens if we do put down all the way until wake time? Do I then Do a dramatic wake up and nurse her? And if this is the case am I not just teaching her to cry for a couple hours then I will feed her, or do try to skip the b/f in the am and offer breakfast?
What time is that NW at? Is it almost the same time every night or does it vary? If it's at the same time, you might try W2S (wake-to-sleep) before PUPD, because PUPD is more difficult as you get closer to morning. Or, you can start trying to reduce the feeding time by a few min every 3-4 nights and see if you can't get her to drop it on her own. But, if you do go the PD route, yes, you would PD til morning wake time. What I normally did in this instance was then to walk out of the room, close the door behind me, and then yes make it a bit dramatic wake up. Open the curtains, say good morning, give her a kiss and go nurse her (in the light somewhere
). I do beleive this is different than in the MOTN, teaching her to cry for a couple hours for a feed, because she doesn't need a MOTN feed in the way she 'needs' a morning feed, iyswim. In all honesty, we weaned my DD's last NF this way. DH did it the first two nights at around 5ish am and I had told him that I would count 6am as morning. So, it got to be 5:50-5:55am and he just brought her to me.
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I was on duty the 3rd night and luckily she woke earlier, more like 3:30am, I think. I was able to get her back down and that was it, she started STTN the next night. She is very textbook, though, so never took long to train.
Or what if we do p/d and it takes a couple hours and she falls asleep just before wake time. Do I let her sleep in? For how long?
I'd let her sleep for an hour, maybe 1.5 if it was a really long session of PD. Yes, your day will be off, but it shouldn't be too hard to get back on track. Better to be off for a day or two than to have a perpetually OT baby.
We are waking at 8:45am nap at 11:30. Wake at 1:00. Nap 2 is at 4:00 doing 45 min. I still put her in bed at 8:30 as it has been taking her at least half hour to 45 mins sometimes an hour to fall asleep? I just don't know why it takes her so long. On pm map refusal days I do an in bed 8pm and it takes 2 mins for her to fall asleep. And naps she takes most 10 mins.
If she's sleeping 2.5 hr in the morning, I'd limit the pm CN to 30 min and have her in bed sleeping at 8 pm. Otherwise, you could start limiting the morning nap to only 2 hr. I think she's getting a tad too much day sleep as you have it written. Also, keep pusing to get to 3 hr morning wake time as a further inhibitor of NWs.