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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #90 on: October 18, 2013, 09:35:24 am »
:( doubting myself if I've done the right thing? Audrey is completely attached to me - literally at the hip she won't let me put her down - and quick to tears. Upset in the night. She doesn't even want to go to playgroup "Stay home please mummy. Sit lap please mummy." Seems like a big hit of separation anxiety, caused by stopping BFing. She was only nursing 1-2 times a day...?




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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #91 on: October 18, 2013, 09:36:41 am »
It's up to you if you want to BF again Anna but if you don't I'm sure the anxiety will pass soon enough. Hugs.
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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #92 on: October 18, 2013, 09:37:20 am »
Yeh sure it will pass. Just feel bad for making her so anxious about me :(




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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #93 on: October 18, 2013, 09:42:07 am »
Lots of mummy snuggles!



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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #94 on: October 18, 2013, 22:32:38 pm »
Do you have a baby carrier Anna? Would that help her to feel snuggled up with you?

 We managed Wednesday without a feed-my mum put her down for her nap and my mil put her down at bedtime. But then yesterday it was like she realised what had happened and was in a complete state wanting me to feed her to sleep at nap time  :( :-\. Screaming and sobbing  :'(. ack.
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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #95 on: October 21, 2013, 21:12:31 pm »
Three nights ago I asked Colby if he wanted an extra story or a boob and he chose the book but halfway through changed his mind and had a boob as well.
Last night he chose a book with daddy instead of a boob and didn't ask again although he did ask that I be the one to lay him in bed.
Today I made a big fuss in front of his auntie, nana and cousin about what a big boy he was that he chose a book with daddy instead of a boob.
Tonight he chose a book again even though he skipped his nap and was very OT.
I hope we can keep this up without a single tear. I only need to get through tomorrow and then I am out with some friends on Wednesday night and DH will be doing BT alone.
Of course DH would have to choose tonight to say he's not sure he wants any more kids, 2 days after weaning ::) feeling sad but I'm hoping I will be blessed enough to nurse another baby in the future.



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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #96 on: October 21, 2013, 22:04:16 pm »
Of course DH would have to choose tonight to say he's not sure he wants any more kids, 2 days after weaning ::)

Er, yeah, good timing.  Have some chocolate and get through that hormonal slump :-*
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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #97 on: October 23, 2013, 16:58:01 pm »
We are definitely done I think. No feeds since Sunday lunchtime and I'm off out in a minute so will miss. BT. He hasn't asked once. He has been a bit tearful generally and resisting sleep but only briefly. My breasts feel tender but are getting soft whereas yesterday they were quite hard. I have a cold so have been having flu powder drinks today. That should help dry me up too I think.
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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #98 on: October 23, 2013, 18:50:32 pm »
((((hugs))) Ali. We're done here too. She still points at my boobs and says "That one?" in the morning but I poke her in the tummy and say "that one?" and she laughs and then we're done. Yesterday I was a bit engorged (8 days later??) and tearful but feeling fine now.

Now just got to get her off th ebottle, for goodness sake  ::) ::) ::) ;D




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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #99 on: October 23, 2013, 20:57:23 pm »
WELL DONE ANNA!  Well done for bf for such a long time....and well done for weaning her  ;) :P

Can you have a word with Ev  ::) 
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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #100 on: October 23, 2013, 23:16:01 pm »
Anna I wouldn't even worry about the bottle for now. The weaning is a huge change for her so she will need that extra comfort for now.



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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #101 on: October 24, 2013, 09:01:10 am »
Anna I wouldn't even worry about the bottle for now. The weaning is a huge change for her so she will need that extra comfort for now.

Oh I know  :-\ but trouble is she gets sooooo upset when she gets to the end of the bottle. It's as if she experiences the upset of not being allowed to BF all over again. Really upset.




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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #102 on: October 24, 2013, 10:07:31 am »
Oh, bless her :(
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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #103 on: October 24, 2013, 14:03:20 pm »
Ah poor girl. I hope it passes soon.

Colby asked me is there was milk there today before his nap av then he got quite teary when I said there wasn't. It's the first time he has asked since we stopped 4 days ago. He got over it very quickly and had a tiny cup of cows milk and then went to bed perfectly without getting up once.



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Re: Weaning thread part 3... Come share experiences and offer support
« Reply #104 on: November 05, 2013, 12:10:54 pm »
So now we're doing 'don't offer, try to refuse' with morning bottle. Definitely best if we just go straight downstairs, then she is quite often distracted by playing or breakfast and forgets to ask. Once she's got the idea of a bottle in her head she is quite tenacious. This morning I genuinely couldn't find the bottle (she was in bad shape yest evening, overtired, had a seizure, too tired to eat tea, separation anxiety and I had to talk to clients on the phone, and was really upset and begging for a bottle), and Audrey searched high and low til she found it under the couch!

What she wants to do is cuddle up on my lap with the bottle, but then she is so so so upset when it's finished. Real tears and takes ages to recover. But if she sits and has a cuddle with Stan or DH, she is a bit upset but not bad. Or if she sits up on the kitchen counter so she's near me while I prepare people's breakfasts, that's OK too. So that's what we're trying to do. I feel a bit bad, pushing her away like that, but feel like it's the right thing to do to avoid the terrible upset over the finished bottle. Then once the bottle is done with we have cuddles.




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