I hope I'm posting into the wright category..
let me answer the basic questions before asking for your help and opion.
How old is your child? 14 months old
What’s his/her daily routine?
E: between 6 and 7h
A: 7.30h
S: between 10 and 10.30h but he is starting to get rid of this nap. he goes down for about an 1h or 1h30
E: between 12 and 12.30h
A: depending on if he has had a nap in the morning or not
S: if he has had a nap in the morning, he usually won't go down before 14.30 for about an 1h and if he has missed the morning nap he'll go down at 13.30 for about 1h30 to 2h30
E: we eat at 19h
A: low key activity (bath time and sleeping ritual)
S: 20h
NW: around midnight
NW: every 2 hours after that
What’s nap routine? i warn him that he is going to go for a little nap as soon as I see his cues (rubbing his eyes, getting winey,...)
I take him upstairs, put him in his cot with his dummy and his blanky telling him he's going to have a little sleep. I close the curtains (leaving a little bit of light) and tell him its sleepy time. He usually fusses a little bit, but goes down easily.
How long are naps? (view routine)
What's bedtime routine? Time? the routine starts at supper, after supper we play a little bit, we have a bath (or a washdown), we put the PJ's on, we put him in his cot with a little book, whilst we tell him a story, we give him a cuddle and kiss, tell him its sleepy time and we go get his big brother and tell him his story. (they sleep in the same bed).
When we have left the bedroom you can be sure that R will start crying 10 min after closing the door. We go in, give him a cuddle and tell him it's time to sleep
Do you bottle or breastfed?? He is on solids and only has a bottle of milk in the morning
How much? or how long? He takes in about 210ml
If breastfed.. one side or both?? (at each feed)
How many wakes per night? starting around midnight, every 2 hours
What’s your LO like when waking at night? How long is he/she up? we used to give him his dummy and a drink of water and he would go back to sleep. but since yesterday evening we are trying the controlled crying.
When you go to him/her is she fussing or crying? Or is it a mantra cry? it's a high pitch crying
What have you tried to settle??
What do you do for A time and how long is it? we play games (building blocks, go to the beach, play in the garden)
Are there developmental issues such as teething or milestones? he has been teething and started to walk a month ago.
Have you introduced cereal? Why, how much, and how many times a day? (for LO’s under 6 months)
Do they have a prop? If so what is it? dummy and blanky
Do they have a lovie (yes)
Since yesterday evening, I've decided to try and get him to find his dummy on his own and to stop the water during the night. For this I put lots of dummies in his cot. When he woke up at 00h17, I went in and told him in a soft voice that it was sleepy time. I didn't give him his dummy, I encouraged him to find it himself. he cried for about a couple of minutes, found the dummy, found his blanky and calmed down, then he started up again a few minutes after, I told him that he was only going to sleep and that he needed to find his dummy and blanky. when he sat up, I put him back down, giving him his dummy and blanky). This went on untill 3h. At 2h30 I did give him some pain medication. He slept fine untill5h. he then started up again, but I did the same thing and he calmed down after about 15 min. At 6H10 he woke up and I asked my man to give him his morning bottle. He put him down again nd he the woke at 7h to start the day.
I just put him down for his nap and he's fine.
Do you think I need to change something. (I stayed in the room during the crying). Do I leave the room? If I continue this, do you think we'll get there or do I have to try another method?
