Hi all! We've received extensive support on this forum when we sleep-trained our baby when he was 4 months old. The PU/PD/shush-pat methodology worked like a dream for him at that time, for a few months.
In the last 1 year, there has been a steady deterioration in LO's sleep ability. It started with few wakings at night, and we would intervene only once we were sure he was crying/almost crying, pat him (he sleeps in a cot in a separate room from us right from 1st month onward) and he would go back to sleep. Then the frequency of wakings went up. Now he's waking up for extended periods of time - up to 2 hours!
We've tried to draw a correlation to the amount of day sleep he's getting - but not able to see any correlation. Whether he sleeps 1.5 hours in the day nap or 2.5 hours, he is equally likely to have an extended waking at night. Because of the long duration of these wakings, it's not feasible to stand by the cot and pat him and withdraw/walk out as we'll have to keep doing that for up to 2 hours. So once it becomes clear that it is an extended waking and he's not going to go back to sleep after a bit of patting, we are forced to pick him up and lie down with him on the mattress in his room. Yes, accidental parenting, but what option do we have, if he's going to be up for 2 hours!
The extended waking happens usually anytime between 6-8 hours after going to sleep. Sometimes it happens within 4-5 hours of going to sleep as well. If it happens after 8 hours, then he very often just wakes up for the day.
During this extended waking, he's not fully awake and doesn't want to run around and play. Rather, it seems as if he's trying to go back to sleep but is simply unable to. Nowadays he's started holding my fingers and playing with it while lying down next to me!
Can you please help us figure out why this could be happening? It's super stressful.
A typical day's routine is like this:
WU: 7.30 am
1st nap: 12.30 pm - 2.30 pm
BT: 9 pm
The above timings vary widely, sometimes he wakes up at 6 am, then naps by 11 am and wakes up at 2 pm. Sometimes he wakes up at 8.30 am, naps by 1.30 pm, wakes up by 3 pm or 4 pm. What's fixed (more or less) are the awake times - he's awake for 5 hours in the morning and 6-6.5 hours in the evening.
Please help!