Shelby- yikes on the twins! I'm impressed with anyone who survives babyhood with twins! Unfortunately, you may find that your spirited DS has different sleep requirements and A times as your DD, which I would imagine is tough with 2! I was often so worried about OT and OS that we ended up with a lot of UT naps and nights. My DD though goes to a babysitters 3 days a week while I'm at work, and there shes around 3 older kids with Lots of activity!
For those with long NWs, we finally figured out that we could tell if it was UT or teething/pain. If when we went in there, she stopped crying (and wanted to play!) then we knew it was UT. If she was still upset, even off and on, after we went in, then we knew it was some sort of discomfort. We try to use that to figure out if we need to tweak anything or if she just needs some meds or comfort.
Hi mdittmer, I'm also no expert and have no reflux experience, but my DD fights me sometimes too, but seems to settle when I put her down. It's like she wants a chance to get comfortable and settle in to sleep rather than having me hold her. It means less cuddle time, but it saves the fight!