Then I would put him in the cot kiss him goodnight and leave, he would cry and scream, usu if that happens I could go in and usu it would be easy to shh pat him to sleep, but if he is calm then there is no way of doing so, he would just lie there for what feels like forever on and off mantra scream babble play with dummy roll rotate etcSo I would suggest to shh/pat until he's calm and then leave and if he starts crying/screaming (and its not mantra) then repeat and shh/pat until he's calm and then leave, repeat, repeat, repeat.
So, with your suggestion, I have a few questions, say he wakes at 6:30 and due for a nap at 9, and knowing he would just cry on and off for a long time, do I put him down at say 8:30 so he could maybe settle by the time his window rolls around? How long do I try for and how would I go about his next nap in regards to A time (assuming he doesn't sleep).See he may be crying on and off because he isn't ready for a nap because he's being put down too early. If you put him down too early what may happen is that he isn't tired enough and then with all that crying/rolling, he misses his sleepy window and then he's overtired and won't sleep well or at all. You may find that if you start stretching him and not offering the nap too early, he won't take as long to settle.
I'm so use to not sleeping that I'm having issues sleeping myself now, how ironicHaha...tell me about it!... but please make sure you're getting your rest too :-*