I still get a lot of NWings with my 4 year old. She can STTN, and does, but gets a lot dreams and night terrors which then leave her upset/ fearful and unable to sleep. What I find really tough though is that she throws a wobbly and won't speak or accept help, so then I end up with several tantrums to deal with instead
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I doubt a simple CIO would even work at this age TBH. I mean, they would just get out surely?!
I'm currently using a reward chart to see if it helps. I think she needs to be a little bit more independent at night, and only call if she wants something. I think the shouting may be a habit. Obviously if she had a NT that wouldn't count (and she wouldn't know anyway!).
My other thought is putting a baby mattress on the floor in my room she can sleep on instead, I have my doubts as she usually rejects comfort, but I may try.
It's hard
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I can remember a phase with DS where I had to teach him to do things himself eg get the water cup himself, find his bear himself and slowly that did deal with the call outs. But he has consistently STTN since age 4 really.
Both mine have night lights, I have worried about them for years, DD won't sleep without it and won't have the door shut. She will often sleep until 7 or 8 even in summer so I just don't believe it can be light sensitivity. If we are away from home without lights, they both wake crying.
And really, at this age it isn't about not waking is it? It is about being independent when they stir in normal NWing moments. And that is what our kids are not doing
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