Ladies - thank you so very much for your time, attention and advice!
Simply hearing that i'm doing it great alleviates all my anxiety and solves all my issues
I will certainly work on increasing his A time to 2,5h and see if it helps with both my issues - short naps and independent sleep.
However, there are couple things I'd like to mention.
1. I don't know if I made it clear that the 15 min it takes for him top fall asleep I am holding his hands and the pacifier all the time. I know 15-20 min is exactly by the Book, but ideally he should take that time to fall asleep on his own, without me holding him. Or am I just being too idealistic and making up problems for myself with this one? after all, as Bella said, it happened gradually with her LO.
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The only other thing I'd say is that if he's ok in there for 15-20mins then maybe his A time isn't quite as long as it could be & he is happy awake looking at things then gets bored & realises he wants company, so maybe try keeping him up 10-15mins longer & spending a bit longer in the wind down stage before you put him down.
I really don't know if the problem is in extra 15 mins. He is not exactly happy and awake, playing. He is sleepy, often even with eyes closed within 5 minutes of being put into crib, but if left alone, his hands are all over the place inevitably pulling the paci out which causes crying. Vicious circle, you see? Although the suggestion sounds perfectly logical and worth a try! Especially prolonging the WD
Thanks again for suggestions - gone to implement
Will surely report on the progress in a couple days!