Ok so I've posted periodically about my DS's night wakings but these past 2 weeks have been the WORST, with this past week being unbelievable! He will be 9 months old in a few days (on the 3rd). Just as a little background, he used to be in daycare full time from 8 weeks old to 3 months old. From 3 months old to now he has been home with me all day. Just this past monday (8 days ago) he started going back to daycare 3 days a week from 7 a.m. to 3 p.m. so I'm sure this has something to do with the horrors of this week, but his night wakings were going on before this also. Additionally, it seems like he's been teething for MONTHS, well we finally have the tip of a tooth that emerged over the course of this past 4 days, along with runny and stuffy nose to the point he can't breath through it, coughing and overall miserableness. I've given him medication to address the pain but he still has the nose congestion which prevents him from sucking his thumb to self soothe because he has to breath through his mouth and using an aspirator just doesn't cut it. Here's his average routine:
6 a.m. -- awake
6:15/6:30 -- bottle (6 oz)
6:30-8 -- play with various toy on his play area in front of the tv or crawl around the house
7:30 -- 5 tbsp oatmeal with bananas
8/8:30 -- morning nap -- he can't stay awake more then 2.5 hours and usually starts rubbing eyes and whining at 2 hr:15 min
he naps from 1.5 hours to 2 hours and he usually goes to sleep within 5-10 minutes of me putting him down with no help
10:00 -- bottle (6 oz)
11:00 -- solid food (at least 3.5 oz and sometimes up to 7 oz depending on how hungry he is)
12:15 -- 2nd nap -- usually 1.5 - 2 hours with minimal help from me to get him to sleep
2:00 -- bottle (6 oz)
3:00 -- solids (same as above)
5:00 -- 3rd nap for 1 - 1.5 hours
6/6:30 -- activity
6:45/7 -- solids
7/7:30 -- start bedtime routine (if bath then start at 7, otherwise start at 7:30, diaper, 8 oz bottle, story, bed)
8 -- down in bed -- he then mantra cries, stands up in crib (can't sit back down yet), plays around and tosses and turns with periods of laying down for the next 45 minutes before going to sleep. In the meantime, I have to go in numerous times and lay him back down, though he's usually not crying (unless he standing up) so I'm confused as to what i'm supposed to do. I just lay him down and then he starts playing with me like its a game and he rolls onto his back, looks at me and starts talking and playing with me hands and stuff. So I turn him over say its nighttime and walk out, which prompts him to cry, whine, stand up and then I have to come in again and lay him down or he tries to lay down himself and hits his face/head and cries prompting me to come in again. He does eventually go to sleep though.
Then he wakes randomly at night, could be at 11:30 as it was a few nights ago and he didn't go back to sleep until 4:15 after the hubby and I constantly going in there soothing him, not always picking him up but just sitting on a stool at crib side with our hands on his back and he'd calm then start to play around even though he'd yawning and rubbing his eyes and obviously sleepy. My hubby even laid down on the floor on side of crib with hand through slats on DS and he went to sleep only to pop back up again 5 minutes later because he couldn't breath through nose and couldn't suck thumb. The following night he woke at 2 a.m. and didn't go to sleep until 4:15 again this time the only way I could get him to sleep was laying on my (I KNOW THIS IS A BIG NO NO but I needed some sleep stat!!!).
I know a lot of this week has been the cold and the teething. But prior to this he was having night waking issues where he'd stay up for 2 hours, randomly, in the middle of the night, just sitting there, sucking his thumb or playing with the Ernie doll we are trying to use as a comfort item. He won't cry, and as I watch him on the monitor I see he's still sleepy because he lays down several times and is still and I think he's asleep then he pops back up, sits up and starts swinging Ernie around or starts hitting the slats on the crib or starts mumbling to himself then after 2 hours he'd just lay back down and go to sleep. That was last week, before he could stand up, now, I don't think he will just "go back to sleep" because he will stand up and I will have to go in and lay him back down. Whenever he sees me he thinks its play time. he's comforted to see me and likes for me to have my hand on his back and he will close his eyes and seem like he's going to sleep but then he gets playful and I know he can't sleep if I'm in the room.
We are going on vacation next week so I have no hopes of fixing this problem immediately but I want to know how to fix this when we get back? I honestly don't think he can handle longer activity times, I've tried and he just gets unbearable and his naps are so bad. But so many people tell me he shouldn't be having that 3rd nap. And also, when he has the 3rd nap, we put him to bed later, could that be the reason for the night wakings??? If he wakes during the night and isn't crying and isn't standing, should I go in there? What if he stays up for 2 hours -- should I intervene?
any advice would be greatly appreciated!
P.S. He's been on a routine since 4 months, has been sleeping through the night since 5 months and usually sleeps avg of 10-12 hours a night but hasn't done that in 2 weeks!!!!