Thanks again, nowI'm trying different A times as you said to see if they work... It seems like I'm spending my whole days in a dark room with LO, sometimes I feel so discouraged... But I have no choice, if I want him to learn to sleep, isn't it?!
I have some doubts about the swaddling: in the first weeks I swaddled DS with a Aden&Anais Easy Swaddle and it worked great. He didn't wake up at night, never, and this affected the starting of breastfeeding: my ped said to let him sleep, but then he lose some weight, instead of gaining it, and therefore I stopped swaddling him. Another reason is that the summer became hotter and hotter, and he sweated a lot in the swaddle.
Stopping the swaddling, he started to wake up at night, usually twice, and his weight increased (now he is 5 kg, 3 months today).
Sometimes I have swaddled him again, in the fussiest (and freshiest) nights, and he slept better. In the meanwhile, he outgrew the Easy Swaddle and I bought the Bubbaroo Joey Pouch: this is very much lighter and allows the movement of the limbs. It worked, but not so much like the previous one. Now he has started putting his hands in the mouth, as self soothing: yesterday he woke up from his nap and first cried a bit, then, when I entered the room, I found him sucking his hands. I've tried another kind of swaddle too, the Ergobaby one, which keeps his hands near his chest, but he can set his hand free and put it in his mouth. I don't know if I have to try a classic swaddle system, with the arms straight (like the Aden&Anais Easy Swaddle) or if I have to let him move his hands near his face if he wants to... In this moment he has just awaken from his nap and he's not crying, but just "talking", and I think it's because he can self soothe (now he's wearing the Joey Pouch).
Any suggestion about it? Here in Italy no one swaddle his babies, so I have to find every information here on the Internet.
Thanks again!!