Thanks for your reply. We do BT late because dad is gone at least 10h a day. He barely gets home in time to see LO before bed a lot of nights, so being in bed by 7 is not very feasible, but we do do it on occasion, especially crappy nap days like you mentioned. He hasn't taken a 1.5h nap in forever! Just some history, he's always been a very poor sleeper. I can recall a couple months where he was pretty consistently taking 2 2h naps, but was waking 6xs a night! I swear he either hates sleep or doesn't really understand it. There are times when we put him down and he's out in 10m but it's rare. We've done EBT or even normal BT and he will just lay there awake for an hour!
We've had days where he completely skipped a nap and the 1 nap he got was still only about an hour.
So today he woke around 7 7:20 out of crib/nursed.
1st nap put him at 10:30 he WAS laying down then he sat up and started crying so I went to him and now he's playing in his crib it's now 11:15. He smacks me during WD and nursing he is so hyper I just really don't know how to contain him, so sometimes WD really isn't productive because I'm sick of being bitten on the shoulder or smack in the face etc.