i am in the same boat !
i am not sure if DS hates the spoon or the food i cook, as he is happy to eat baby jar (10 month old jar/dish) and will finish really quickly! self feeding, he is not over excited about it but will feed himself ok if i allow him.
i am getting really frustrated as DS wants to eat standing or while he is crawling around. i hate chasing him around to feed him but that's seem to be the only way now to get him eat a little more.
sorry i am not of any help. really hope mums here give us any suggestion. thanks.