I've got 16 month old twin girls. Their current regimen is:
Wake 645ish (this has come with the recent sleep issues, there wake time used to be 715-730)
Play
Breakfast 830am
Play
Snack 1030am
Play
Lunch 1145
Nap 1230-130 or 2 (sometimes only 45 minutes but generally at least an hour)
Play
Snack 4pm
Play
Walk 530
Dinner 6pm
Bath
Bedtime 730 (although lately they've been fighting it a little bit and its been closer to 745-8)
Background info. My husband had a kidney transplant the beginning of April so the girls spent a few nights with grandparents (they've stayed overnight with them several times before) then spent 2 weeks in an extended stay hotel in the city where the surgery was. They did really good, routine remained the same and they slept in cribs in a separate room. About a week after being home Claire, who is my good sleeper generally sleeping thru the night or at most waking once and settling easy with a pat on the back, has started started waking around midnight and refusing to sleep she just wants to be held and rocked anywhere but her nursery. If you try and put her down or stay in the nursery she'll throw a tantrum. She'll stay up til 3 or 4 in the morning doing this if you let her. About every 3 or 4 days she'll sleep thru the night otherwise we're either up all night with her or we sit with her in the nursery while she throws a crying fit in her crib for 20-30 minutes until she finally falls asleep. The other factor is Lilly her sister has never been the best sleeper and will usually wake around 1 and settle with a pat on the back but then will wake again around 3 or 4 and insist she come to our bed where she'll sleep soundly the rest of the night. For the sake of getting sleep we have generally just been bringing her to bed when she wakes. She continues to do this and there have been no new issues. If we try to make her stay in her bed its generally off and on crying for hours or one big fit that lasts for 30-45 minutes. I think part of Claires issues might be that she's now jealous that Lilly comes to our bed at night (they share a room) but I think over tiredness is also playing a part. So I need advice on whether I need to deal with Lilly's co-sleeping issue to fix Claire's sleep issues, and if so how should I fix Lilly's co-sleeping issue. If not, what advice do you have for me in dealing with Claire's night tantrums? All this on top of caring for my husband who is recovering from the surgery so I'm exhausted and desperate for sleep.