I want to start EASY with DS#2 (14 weeks old), but have no clue where to start. I've read through the FAQ but still feel lost. We implemented EASY with DS#1 (textbook) around 4 months old and have loved it.
From day 1, DS#2 has needed to be carried to fall asleep (and stay asleep during the day). We have been trying to transfer him and have found that when we transfer about 15 min in, we are more successful, but only 1/6 tries. We've tried carrying longer (20, 30, 60min), but with even less success. When he was about 6 weeks old, we tried having him sleep on his tummy, because he was jolting a lot and did not sleep well. After this change, he has become a better night time sleeper, more predictable (of course except the last 3 nights). His day time routine is still very unpredictable.
How do you have them sleep in the crib on their own when they are tummy sleepers? DS just lifts his head and does not respond to shush or pat or pacifier.
I'm a SAHM with 2 kids. I'm stressing out about what DS#1 can do while I'm helping DS#2. I'm already feeling guilty for the current situation of having to carry DS#2 to sleep and he wakes easily to noises, so I usually have to seclude myself and DS#2 so DS#1 doesn't wake baby.
What do I do when DS wakes early? Do I just restart EASY and nurse? Do I have him wait till it's been 3 hrs since last feeding? Do I wait till he signals hunger?
Here's a very rough idea of his EASY:
wake up/E 6-7:30am (this is the time frame of when he starts eating, not how long it takes)
A for 1.5 hours (if he is up before 6am or close to 6am, he will usually nurse to sleep and stay asleep for 1-2 hrs)
S 30-60min
E 9-10am (time frame, not length for all E times)
A for 1.5 hrs
S 30-60min
E noon-ish
A for 1.5 hrs
S 30-60min
E 2-3pm
A same as above...
S same as above...
E 4:30-5pm
A
S
E 7:30-8pm
A
S
DF 10-10:30pm. He refuses to nurse when he's asleep, so I have to wake him up a little bit. Should I not do that?
E 2-3am Nurse one side, change diaper, then nurse on the other side.
DS#2 is breastfed only. During the day, he usually will only nurse on one side and be done in about 10 min. He's wide awake after nursing. At night time (starting around 7pm), he will be half asleep while nursing and suck until I remove him and nurse from both sides. I tried only nursing on one side for the middle of the night feed and he woke up 2 hours later.
I feel like there's so much that I need to change and don't know where to start. Please give me some suggestions on where I should start. I remember the first few weeks being really difficult and exhausting with DS#1, so I'm anxious, but the current situation can't last much longer....DS#2 is not getting enough sleep (neither are the parents) and DS#1 is feeling neglected.