would you still continue the weaning process after two nights of sleeping through the night?
No, I wouldn't. If she slept two nights in a row through then I don't think she needs the feeds anymore. By now it can may well be that they are disrupting her sleep rather than helping.
Also once she is sleeping through the night do you always just not offer milk anymore and perhaps water if need be. I think I may just find this a little bit tricky if she is unwell and perhaps hasn’t eaten as much as usual!
No, no milk anymore. Take it from my experience, she will just start and wake up again expecting to be fed. If she is ill she will wake up because of discomfort not because she is hungry. And if there is one night that she wakes up a couple of times because of being hungry it's better to not feed and deal with just this night then going back to waking up once or twice every night to feed her.
Also, she is still going down for her nap at 11:30 am. This has been going well but I’m just wondering when I could start to increase the time until 12 pm, only it would just be a lot easier to fit going out in the morning and returning for lunch before her nap. She is going to sleep at 7 pm and usually wakes between 5:30 am and 6 am at the moment. However, she does often seem tired in the mornings so perhaps this is not the right time to increase her nap until 12 pm. Should I wait until she starts to resist it?
I think best would be to start a thread on the toddler sleep board, mommies there are far more experienced than me
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re the milk and teeth I would think you can give the milk in a sippy cup. They need to work harder drinking from a cup but if she is doing it already during the day then she should be ok.
With teeth brushing it depends a lot on the child. With DS I knew that I have to wait till he understand everything that is going on. Only then I said one day that from today on he has his milk, then teeth brushing, then to bed, and he was totally fine with it. After two weeks we changed things again and took away the BT bottle, only offered water. He was fine with it as well, but like I said he had to understand what's going on or I'll have to deal with awful tantrums. It's not the same for everybody, most parents brush teeth after bottle no problem.
I was thinking that the cup would probably stop her falling asleep while having the milk and perhaps get her used to falling asleep independent again at bedtime.
I don't know if dropping the bottle will help with that (and thinking about it it might be a bit early to drop the bottle all together) and you might need to do PD but I think it's worth it. She needs to learn to fall asleep at BT as well. I think she will surprise you - might struggle a couple of BT but then she'll get the hang of it.
Good luck!