Well, that 7:30 bed time was a disaster. We got her to bed no problem because I had tried to extend her naps all day. However, all I think I have accomplished is teaching my daughter to need help settle when she transitions at night now. Something she was previously having no problems with until I started wake to sleep and resettling her. She was up at 9:30 for a dream feed, 11:30, 1:30, 3:30, 4:00, 4:30 and finally at 5 after a five minute resettle I got up and fed her. She went back down at 6 and woke again at 7:15. So I am no longer going to try and extend her naps. We are totally at a loss for what to do this morning because she ate at 5, slept til 7 I tried to feed her at 8 and she wouldn't take a full feed but she seemed hungry, was rooting and crying the hungry cry. Now she isyawning and getting fussy which usually means sleep, but it's only 8:30. She'll probobly be hungry again soon so even if she does sleep she'll wake because she needs to eat. Where do we go from here. At least when she was sleeping through the night we could start each day off fresh.
[ put away any toys you currently have with lots of bells and whistles (flashing lights etc)] She never plays with these, all she has is a bear with a blanket or her hands to play with, as I've tried to keep stimulation as low key as possible as suggested in other posts.
[/make sure her room is dark. if you can get a whitenoise machine i woudl recommend that as well ] The room is as dark as it is at night and the white noise just distracts her, she tries to find out where it's coming from. I've tried to reduce visual stimulation by putting my hand above her eyes, not touching her, but she's so busy trying to move away from my hand she can't get to sleep.
I've tried everything suggested. All I've succeeded in doing is teaching my daughter to need help to transition which means she is now not sleeping during the day or the night. She will take longer naps when she is ready. I'm just going to try and get our nights back now. I appreciate all of the advice but I'm not a bad mum just because she hasn't developed enough to nap for long periods. What is the point of trying so hard to teach her this skill if she is not ready and in the process every other sleep skill is being ruined (I've been trying to get her to sleep for half an hour now, she used to be able to fall asleep on her own)? Once she is ready I'll be able to use EASY again until then I'll just take what works from the book and leave the rest.
Thanks for trying.