I'm waiting for my book to come in the mail, so I am kind of winging it...... thanks for all the help offered here in the meantime!
Ok, here's the routine in a nutshell:
E 8:00am wake & bf 20mns
A til 9:30am
E 9:30-9:40 snack
S 9:30-10:30am
E 10:30am wake from morning nap and bf 20mns
A til 11:50am
E 11:50am snack before my lunch other he will have a meltdown since he's not getting undivided attention
A til 1pm
E snack bf 10mns before nap
S nap 1 to 1.5hrs (sometimes only 40mns, sometimes wakes up every 10mns crying and won't really nap)
E 2:30 bf, depends on how the nap went whether this will be a 20minute one, or a snack.
A til 4:ish, then I'll try to get him down again withtout bf, but eventually give in and bf
E bf for 10mns
S sometimes will nap, but is usually similar to the previous nap, hit & miss
A 5:00 activity while we eat dinner, but he's usually fussing, so I eat quickly and bf him again (10mns).
A 5:30 bath, massage with lotion, jammies
E 6:00 bf before bed 20-30mns
S 6:30 in bed for the night. Sometimes he wakes up several times over the next 3 hrs for a top up, and occasionally he's down for the night until midnight or so.
Last night was the first time I could get him to dream feed, he usually won't open his mouth at all, but I kept working at him until he opened and ate. It didn't get him any longer thru the night, he woke up at midnight, then 2am, then 5am, then up for the day at 7am.
I'm sure i"m doing this all wrong........ any tips? He was super colicky the first 3 months and we couldn't get any kind of a routine going cause all he would do is bf and cry.