Hi. Sounds like you're all losing sleep there. Hugs, it's hard when there are so manythings to deal with and trying to deal with them when you're so tired too. xx
I want to have a plan and tell her about it during the day and again at bedtime, and stick to it.
YK. You have really answered yourself here. I totally agree with this. You need a plan and you need to stick with it. Stick with it.
Can I suggest re-reading the thread first off for some reminders of the points previously made. There is great advice here from pps. I totally agree with Vicki that the nursery naps are disturbing the entire weeks sleep. It can take several days to a week to get into a sleep habit and that is very hard when the routine changes back and forth. Some LO need an occasional nap when nap dropping, even alternate no nap and nap days, but when they are ready to drop the nap completely, it needs to go. Fully. it is difficult, if not impossible, to set a healthy sleep routine with those naps continuing. Can you speak with the nursery manager again about this?
With regards to the BT call backs and NWs:
I try to go through all her requests before she gets into bed, but of course she changes her mind and wants socks and more water when she's in bed . So she always gets more of what she wants.
Really? Where do you draw the line? Have you drawn a line? This is blunt but it is *you* that draws the line, not your LO. What for instance if she asked for chocolate, lollipops, a trip to the park? Would these requests go beyond the line?
So you set the line and stick to it.
I would never leave my child calling for me without a response and no one here would expect you to do so but there are ways to support your child without fulfilling their every desire. Night time is for sleeping. Set a check list of things to be done before BT, go through it, socks, water, whatever it is, they are all done before lights out. Then it's the regular song, a kiss goodnight, leave the room.
There's the line.
No more requests.
Any call backs are responded to either by verbal reassurance from outside the room - reassurance, not conversation, one key phrase you repeat, do not discuss socks or water, tell her "It's sleepy time go to sleep" or if you feel you must enter the room you do so quietly, in the dark, and repeat the key phrase.
That duvet. I wouldn't want my LO cold in the night and learning skills such as pulling a duvet back over herself may be tricky, so:
- practise in the day time at the weekend to ensure she can manage
- fix the duvet so it can't fall off. A single sheet put right across the bed and tucked in tightly will do it, or a duvet cover fitted right over both the mattress and the duvet the effect being like a sleeping bag. This will stop the duvet accidentally falling off. If she is kicking it off on purpose to get you back in there she needs to learn this is no longer an option.
Water. Put a non-spill cup near her bed and let her get it herself if she is truly thirsty.
There is an answer to each and every one of her disturbances and requests, you just need to set your head straight on the plan and in your own words:
stick to it
Many hugs. I hope something here helps you.