Hi all,
I am a little obsessed by teach to my lo independent sleep. I read so many advices that now I am confused about what to do.
Now my procedure to make him sleep consists in putting him in the bed, plug the paci in and wait with my hand on the paci because he has never learned to keep the paci in his mouth by himself. When he's more upset I add some shhhh and/or I keep my hand on his chest. Sometimes he falls asleep with paci in, sometimes he drops it just before deep sleep.
Lo is never drowsy, either he is awake, flailing legs and arms even with closed eyes, or he is sleeping. He literally falls asleep in one second. Moreover he has never fallen asleep in my arms.
I have no ideas on how to proceed to teach independent sleep from this starting point. I guess I should wean the paci, but I am scared because when he has his "scream crisis" the only thing that truly works is the paci. But since he's never clearly drowsy, I have no way of using the paci just for soothe but not for sleep.
A couple of times I have tried to put him in bed and wait. He sucks his fist, thumb or blanket, chatting at first, but quickly escalating to a cry.
Do you have suggestion on how to proceed? He is 4mo now and I think I must do something now to avoid pain in the future.
Thanks!!