March/April 05 Thread #2

[mickymuscles]

hi guys!
DH feels bad about coming home and exposing Jack to shingles!!    Oh well, too late now!  Anyways, I'm just hoping that if Jackson does get chickenpox it's after his surgery....I don't want to put it off anymore!  It took us over a month to get this appt. as it is.  And it will be so much harder once Jack is mobile which i think is going to happen soon....he is starting to pull his feet under him when he is on his belly so that his butt is straight up in the air.

Richelle-I have bought the jarred meat....it is absolutely disgusting!!!  It smells and tastes like dog food!!  well, i've never tasted dogfood but it is how i imagine it!!     I've also bought the blended meat and veggie combo's and it's more veggies then meat.  Jack doesn't seem to mind those.  But as far as preparing my own....I just take a bit of meat that I have prepared for myself (ie turkey, lamb, steak, chicken, salmon) and puree with a bit of water until smooth.  I give Jack all the spices and everything...I just make sure I don't cook with too much salt and no creams or whole eggs.  He enjoys his meat dishes more when there is more flavor.  I did initially make chicken by just poaching it and he didn't enjoy it very much only would eat a couple of spoonfuls.  Then I let him try mine with all the spices, etc and he gobbled it up.  So now I don't prepare anything seperate for him.  I just puree whatever I've made for myself.

[sophieandhannah]

Roz, that is funny about the nipple thing.  We switched Sophie to a #3 nipple on Dr. Brown's bottles thinking that she would take more ebm...no such luck.    I guess It wasn't a nipple problem.  But, I definately think it's a good idea to give them more flow when they get older. 

Traci, didn't mean to start the rumor mill :oops:  :lol: about you possibly being PG!!!  Just hadn't followed up.

Jo, Sophie has  been a little touchy/clingy lately.  MIL came over to babysit the other night and she was a little standoffish, not so usually, Maybe it is the separaton anxiety thing, Fraser is getting to right about the textbook age for it.
LOL about the playstation/watching tv thing with dads...what is it with them??  Yesterday I had to go to a meeting in the evening for work.  Dh asked me to leave him "directions" for what to do with Sophie while I was gone (which was actually nice, considering he took offense in the past if I did that...at some point though it would also be nice not to HAVE to, because he knows the routine just as well as I do IYKWIM)  Anyhow...I wrote down "quiet play" for the after dinner before bath etc time.  When I called on my way home, they were watching baby einstein...THIS is quiet play??  sigh...one step forward, two steps back.
JO, also funny about MIL being wrong.  I really hate it when other people try to tell me what's "wrong" or not worng with Sophie.  Even when Brendan (my 6 yr old stepson) lovingly says "Hannah, I think Sophie's hungry"  I get annoyed...But I just take a deep breath and say "No Brendan she's not hungry, but thanks for caring"
 :roll:   But then I always mutter to myself something like, maybe she is hungry, I mean really, so I know everything about her?? Having confidence with all of this is so key.
Speaking of confidence, Macaire about confronting the babysitter, I would.  You are not being too controlling.  You have to be able to guide your child's care when you are away.  I think as along as the care giver understands that you understand that things don't always go to plan, but you have to at least be clear on what the plan is...as long as that is clear, straying is ok, as you can trust that she understands what you are aiming for, but may not always be able to do it.  hope that makes sense.

And Richelle, how could anything ever be wasted on your child.  It's strange how people think parents' time is better spent working/away from kids.  I HATE that childcare is so undervalued.  Better for us to work and make the "big bucks" and pay someone minimum wage to watch our children?? Weird huh? BUT, we do what we have to do.  I totally agree with you on the pressures around being a woman/mother/working woman/wife/house keeper etc.  Thank goodness for you ladies or I would never navigate my way through all of this.
Traci-
I'm with Naomi...I don't REALLY know how much solids Sophie is getting, exactly.  I would guess I am giving about 2tbs cereal and 2 tbs fruit for breakfast, 2-4 tbs veg for lunch and 2-4 tbs veg+ 2 tbs fruit for dinner.  Sometimes I do more if she seems really into it, sometimes I do less.
What is the reasoning for milk feeds being most important until (when??)  Is it about hydration? Is it about nutrition? Or is it about antibodies (for bf)?? Does anyone know?

Also, Sophie oes not have a lovey yet but I am sooo excited I just ordered a taggie and am hoping she'll take to that as her lovey...I am also hoping that a miracle will happen and she will suddenly not want her soothie anymore once she has the taggie

Already looking forward to chatting this Sunday.
Hannah

[sophieandhannah]

MIcky, we posted at the same time, not hard to do, while I am composing my (not so)short stories
Anyhow, good luck with the shingles!!! Yikes, I am thinking of you all and hoping for the best.
Hannah

[Claire Marie's mommy]

Hey ladies.  Thanks for the info on constipation.  We're going on day 5 here and still no bm.  Last night we had projectile vomiting right before bed.  I was breast feeding her and she started to cough.  She's been coughing a lot with chest conjestion.  Anyway, I took her off and sat her up and she puked all over.  I thought that was that and popped her back into the tub.  Out of the tub, rediaper and put on jammies, puked again :cry:  Hold her for a while, re-jammie, call my mom, puked AGAIN while I was on the phone.  Called the night nurse from her peds office, talking to her and yes, she puked again.  By this time she's dry heaving, puking up green mucousy stuff, sorry gross, but nurse doesn't seem too concerned says she probably has an irritated tummy from the const. and drainage.  Says not to feed her, just put her to bed and when she wakes to give her Pedialyte.  The hardest part about all of this was how miserable she was :cry: .  She didn't cry at all, jut put her head of DH's shoulder and rested inbetween pukes.  Well I was terrified to put her down in her crib because she was gagging on the puke,  so DH put her bouncy seat in her crib and she slept in that all night.  Anyway, sorry about being long winded, I'm just frustrated and feel so bad for her.  Going to be giving her glycerine supository when she wakes from nap.  I've switched to oatmeal cereal and plan to give prunes from here on out.  And to top it off we've had 45 min naps all day, I'm sure because she's so uncomfortable AND DH  has co-workers coming over for dinner tonight :evil: NOT what I'm in the mood for. 

Sorry about the rant, just needed to get it off my chest.  You guys are the best.  Thanks for listening.

Jessica

PS - Traci, Claire doesn't really have a lovey.  I keep trying to get her used to one, but I afraid to leave it in the crib with her.

[sophieandhannah]

HUGS to you jessica...I am so sorry.  I am wishing you a better day today. Can you order pizza for dh's dinner tonight?? :wink:

One more thing, ped prescribed flouride drops for sophie...anyone else using these?
Hannah

[Beata]

Claire Marie's mommy - I have not read far back enough to see...but my mom recommended that when I was having constipation probs with dd, to take the bulb thingy that gets the stuff noses, and fill it with warm water and a teeny drop of soap and give an enema. I did not use soap because dh thought that was bad, but I put a small amount of vaseline on tip and filled her with water -and then a clean daiper. It was almost instantaneous. Then a bit later, she pooed out a ton more! My doctor said to give a baby glycerin suppository, but I went with the mother/grandmother remedy.

Poor thing, must be feeling so bad {{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}} to both of you

[Beata]

And PS - watch out with the prunes...I think dd had really bad tummy ache when I gave a bunch! Just don't go overboear with the fibre. Start with the supposityory to get it out, adn then just go slow  :wink:

[kate585]

Big (((hugs))) to you Jessica and to Claire, too.  So sorry you've had to deal with that.  I'd be scared out of my pants with 4 pukings in a row like that. 
My dh loves the playstation, too.   :?   He has a special way to sit that protects Ryan when he sits on the couch next to Daddy as he plays.  Lovely, I tell ya!  Video games are dh's way to destress on the weekends and I just keep telling myself it's better than him going out drinking with the guys (or worse, girls) from the office. 
Jo:  we are starting to get really clingy here, too.  Not so much crying when he doesn't see me, but if he's in the Jumperoo jumping like a madman and I go to check the laundry in the next room (after telling him where I am going), he'll just stop and watch the door until I come back.  He's also checking on me constantly while he's off exploring the room.  (Mind you, he's 3 feet away from where I am sitting on the floor watching him).
As for meat, I bought some baby food turkey and Ryan just about gagged.  It did smell awful.  But, since I had bought 4 jars of it, I ended up mixing it with really strong tasting things he likes. It worked best with a guava/sweet potato (kumera?) mix.  He hardly noticed it at all. From now on, though, I'll stick to whatever we're eating or the mixed jar stuff.  I'll also be hard-boiling some eggs...in case you missed my bonehead move of trying to scramble an egg yolk alone and it stank and Ryan again gagged on it.  Never even thought about boiling.  For the 459th time I say, "Thank goodness for this website!" 
Think that's it for now...wishing you all a great weekend!!!!!

[Erin M]

Micky - Hope Jack is OK - can't catch a break, can you?...DH finally gets to come home and he brings germs with him...

Hannah - our ped prescribed vitamins with flouride - I'm supposed to give them daily, but she won't take them unless I mix them with food, so she gets them some of the time  :oops:  since I tend to forget about them when mixing up her food

Jessica - Ugh, hope Claire feels better, poor thing.  Katie has had a nasty cold and pretty much puked every time she ate for a few days.  She was off solids for about 4 days as well before she started eating again yesterday.

Andrea - I went to a lecture a few years ago for one of my grad classes by this very renowned dyslexia expert - she has a few kids and she's been all over the world lecturing and researching - her big advice - "you can have it all, just not at the same time" -- I think about that sometimes these days. 

Traci - Katie's been off solids for a few days due to her cold, but she was getting about 7 oz a day of fruits and veggies and 4-6 tb of cereal - I think we're going to work on meat next.  Katie has a lovey now - one of those bunny heads with the blankets attached.  I give it to her when I put her in her crib and she always smiles and grabs it with one hand, sticks her thumb in her mouth, and goes to sleep.  (Well, some of the time at least, not going to pretend it's that perfect all the time!)  At any rate, it's really cute to see her snuggle with it.  Doesn't seem to impede her breathing at all, but to tell you the truth once she became a tummy sleeper, I figured all bets were off in terms of the SIDS guidelines.

Karen - How is BF 2x a day working out?  I'm going back full days Monday and Wednesday starting next week and realistically I know there's no way I have time to pump the amount I should.  If it works I would love to just BF morning and night for now.  I'm interested to hear how it works for you.

Have a good weekend all!

[JacobMarksMummy]

Hey ladies!
Boy does this thread move fast! I was just wondering if any of u are fully breast feeding your babies, I am and DH and I have decided to try for another but my periods are all over the place and GP says that the chances of getting preganat whilst BF is very slim. Whats the situation with anyone else? I am so broody it is unbelivable I thought that feeling would go once I had my baby  :? ! I must be mad!

Nome
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[becca24]

Hi,

Hannah - those teething thingy's are "Heinz Teething Rusks' they are like a long skinny biscuit. I keep them in the fridge so they are nice and cool on her gums. She loves to chew on them but not much goes into her belly judging by how long it takes to clean the high chair afterwards :x I think it's the first 9months you offer milk first then solids. ??

Traci - My belly is kinda big also :? I have lost all my pregnancy weight but the last week or so my belly is just out there. It looks weird. No AF here because of breast feeding :?:  :?: . Hope I don't do what my mum did - I am 10.5months older than my brother :?  :shock:  :?  :shock:

Richelle - I am suppose to go back to work in January. I am not even sure I want to. The only reason I will is because of guilt of not 'earning'. I think staying at home is a much harder and more demanding job anyway :wink: So to all those people giving you a hard time just say PPPTHHHHHH !!   :lol: oh and I cracked up at the french bunny thing :lol:


BIG HELLO TO EVERYONE !!!

[becca24]

forgot to add:

I have a problem with DD refusing feeds... Yesterday she would not BF at 2.30/3.00.  She fed OK before bed but not as much as usual. This morning she would not BF at all. I tried a few times and she just screamed. I made up a bottle of formula - no luck. She would not stop crying so I put her back to bed (7.30) She woke half an hour later, I tried BF again - no luck. I just gave her breakfast (cereal and fruit) she ate it all no problem. I am so worried about the BF I have been so upset and now I am having a big cry :cry: I feel silly also because it is only two feeds............... I might post in BF forum also.

Has anyone else had this problem??

[Beata]

Bec - I just checked my What To Expect the First Year, and it could be:

Something you ate which she does not like
A Cold
Teething
An earache
thrush
Some hormonal change in you
Tension in you
Readiness for weaning

The advice is...Don't try substitutes like formula, Try ebm in a bottle, keep trying every feeding, slow down on solids.. but don't worry it's only temporary usually, but if you n otice other signs of illness call the doctor...

that being said I have no experience with this myself. Good luck!

[kq]

Hi all,
Jessica, poor Claire. Hope she is feeling better today.
Erin, BFing twice a day is working out great for us! I feed him before I go to work in the morning and then his last feed when I get home. I hear you about not being able to pump the amount he needs. In fact, I have problems pumping and only get about 2 oz yet my breasts feel very full afterwards...no letdown.   Would have loved to carry on EBF otherwise. Those two feeds are really special and if you are working 2 days a week, I highly recommend it. I also work 2 days a week and on Wednesdays, I do an afternoon/evening shift, I give Sam a BF at the 3 pm feed so I do not have to pump when I am at work. Dh then gives him a bottle before bed. HTH.
Nome, I am also incredibly broody but do not want to give up BF yet so we will see what happens! Will think about weaning fully when closer to a year old.
Traci, Sam has 3-4 icecubes full of fruit, veges etc a meal and we are on 3. He sometimes has it all and wants more and sometimes not. Tried jarred meat but was disgusting so have resorted to making my own. Have only poached chicken so far.
Sam does not have a lovey as such but he sucks on a bit of muslin.
Karen

[Colesmom]

don't have a lot of time, but wanted to say HUGS Jessica.  Hope Claire is feeling better.

Micky-too bad your visit with DH has to be tainted with his illness.  Is he feeling okay?

Nome, I am breastfeeding 6 times a day still.  No period here.  Hence my issue/Q re: could I be pregnant.

Bec!  Did you see that possible reason for BF refusal-hormonal change!  EEK, hope you're not PG! Has she taken formula in the past or was this the first time?  I know I have a can here for just such an occasion but I've never had to use it.  I'm thinking of introducing formula for those times when I don't have time to pump.  Good luck...hope you get some milk into her.

On the topic of constipation again...I met Holly at the mall today and she mentioned that whenever she gives brady carrots he goes.  Seems the same with Cole (storebought btw).  He had 3 HUGE poops yesterday (carrots with every meal i think) and he had not gone yet today. And wouldn't you know, carrots with dinner and a great big poopy.  I decided to BF before bath just in case.  phew...good thing I did.  Can't imagine the mess that would have made.  Anybody have their lo poop in the bath yet?  Not like we can just fish them out with a net or something and change the water...it would be everywhere ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww

I'll be back later...we have friends coming over to meet Cole tomorrow and this place is a disaster!