Hi Deb. thanks so much for replying. You have been so great for the last 4 months!
I have no family or in laws locally and dh is studying and working so is stretched to his limit, so i am on my own here! DS1 is in nursery 3 mornings a week which helps a nit but that is it.
My routine is like this on a good day:
wake 7am ( should feed but never does)
solids 7.30 / 8am (if i am lucky)
nap 9am - 9.45am
feed any time between 10am and 11am
nap about 11.30 / 12pm - 1.45 / 2pm
feed 2pm
nap 4pm - 4.30pm (ish)
feed 5pm
bed 6.45pm
The sleep in the day is consistant. the feeds are not. the wind down is simple in that i take him upstairs, change his nappy, zip him into his sleeping bag draw the curtains and put him down on histummy then leave! he always puts himself to sleep as that is what we have always done
He is clever like that. I always left him to re settle if he woke too early at the midday nap so he is used to being left at that time. I used to allow him to sleep for longer at this nap and the later one but his night time sleep broke downa nd reduing the sleep helped at the time.
Today he was pretty good and did all of that wiht no problems except the 2pm feed should be from a bottle now and it took me an hour and a hlf to get him to feed. however he did take it in the end and had 4 oz
yay!
he then had all his other feeds as normal. he woke at 9.30pm wanting a feed. i would usully wait until 10.30pm but he wouldn't re settle so i fed him at 10pm nd am now on my way to bed as he has now resettled. DS1 waking several times a nigh and getting up too so am averaging about 4 hours sleep a night at the moment! health visitor thinks i should stop feeding more tahn once at night after the dream feed as this would bring breakfast back in. she says it means letting him cry for a few nights but thinks that wiht a bit of alternative reassurance from me, he is skilled enough to manage.??
any ideas would be well recived.
Thanks