Thanks Zoe - Somewhere along the way through the 2 months that you have been advising me, the NW that I thought were unrelated, or would spontaneously resolve have become more important for me to solve.
Do you think I should post a new question about it?
My thoughts on it in any case:
I re-read chapter 7 "We're still not getting enough sleep" in The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems ( the only book of T's that I have read.) It seems that we have perhaps been approaching the problem differently to how she seems to suggest. I think it is worth asking what tools I have been using to get him back to sleep. Which is why I asked about WI/WO. Can you advise about this method?
Maybe I never mentioned this, but he has never really slept through independently without medication for more than a few nights a few times in his life. I'm not sure if Tracy would term that as "never having slept through"
However, he is fully capable of intendant sleep at nap and BT. Unless he is OT or some other unusual reason he might occasionally need a little help. I guess we have been trying to figure this problem out for about 2 months and he is still waking up 3 times per night (if you could the 4:45 EW as one.)
I was previously picking him up and comforting him a lot, and while he was sick I even held him till he was asleep or let him sleep on me. I think that lapse in resolve has caused some problems now. So I am doing a gentle version of WIWO (not walking out
) I am only picking him up if I absolutely HAVE To (once a night or not at all) and I am helping him lay down and then laying down in the room. 2 night ago it took 2 hours. Last night 20 mins. But i still wonder why he wakes up... (when he woke at 11 I didn't have to go to him.) I went to him at 3 and then just got up at 4:45.
I did medicate him both nights.
The only example that I have read where Tracey advises on a similar situation (the child goes to sleep independently, but NW) she had done CIO before and I am on the other end of the spectrum tending to AP, so I didnt find it a helpful scenario. Do you know of a similar situation in one of Tracey's other books where she advises what to do?
I am wondering if the fact that I constantly have struggled to wake him up from his morning nap (and should I still be having to wake him? I would have thought after a month he would settle into the routine and wake himself if it was a good routine for him?) I am just wondering if the 20 min nap is making him OT.
To make matters worse DS1 is dropping his only nap
and I am afraid I don't have it in me to deal with a 1-0 transition right now!!!
Anyway, any thoughts or helpful hints super welcome - also I wondered if asking one of the other moderators for thoughts? I'm getting more and more burnt out and desperate.