Thank you both, your advice, combined with DH working from home on Friday & being around at the weekend gave me the confidence to bite the bullet & attempt cot naps again. With some success
After short wind down I've swaddled DD, put sleep sheep right next to Moses basket & just held her in the basket. Sometimes need to do a little rockingof the mattress too....and she's gone to sleep! She woke again as soon as I stopped holding her though but a friend suggested bolstering her with rolled up towels between her side and sides of Moses basket so she feels as if she's still being held & that seemed to work.
Cot naps are still short though- under an hour. She copes with that for first nap but not later ones, so I've APOP-ed her to resettle if I couldn't get her to go back to sleep in Moses basket.
I also have to do a sling nap after 2nd feed so we can leave the house with DS & for catnap as I'm trying to get the meal ready at same time & can't be focused just on nap.
I'd be pleased if I can get at least first nap & nap after "lunch" in the Moses basket/(cot later) as those are the 2 that will remain longest, as I remember with DS.
So today worked pretty well & looked like this:
WU&E 6.45
A: 1hr20
S: 8.05-9.00 (55mins in Moses basket with resettle in basket at 8.20)
E:9.30
A:1hr10
S: 10.10-12.15 (2hrs5 in sling)
E: 12.30
A: 1hr15
S: 13.30-14.10 (40mins in Moses basket, couldn't resettle in basket)
14.45-16.15 (1.5hrs in car/car seat)
E: 16.15
A:1hr15
S: 17.30-17.50 (20mins in sling, hard to settle & woke herself)
A
E: 18.30
A
S: 19.45 (total final A time almost 2hrs- long but taking a long time to settle for night and hard to get quiet when DS is running around & shouting!)