Author Topic: LAZY LAZY BABY!!! (Read 5936 times)

gemmah · « **on:** December 05, 2006, 15:41:40 pm »

My LO is sooo lazy she is 9m and has only really just started crawling, 8m to clap, 5m sit up (not bad)!

The real thing that is driving me mad is that she wont hold her bottle. I have tried putting her hands on, it filling it less (then she just squirts in her face).
She holds her water cup so i think i am going to put her milk in there for all feeds apart from night. Worried she wont take as much though?

My dad didn't walk till he was about 2, i am worried she will be the same and i am going to end up with a hunched back!

Is every other 9m/o holding their bottle? BIL baby been doing so from about 4m!!!

Lªuren · « **Reply #1 on:** December 05, 2006, 15:54:19 pm »

There was a long (but informative

) post about this very recently, I will try and dig it up....

Lªuren · « **Reply #2 on:** December 05, 2006, 16:03:17 pm »

https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=78014.msg659716#msg659716

here is one, but there is another,,,,,

Lªuren · « **Reply #3 on:** December 05, 2006, 16:06:01 pm »

https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=78574.0

Found the other one,,,,,

Hope this are of help to you. Calum only started at 13months.

gemmah · « **Reply #4 on:** December 05, 2006, 16:31:55 pm »

Thank you!

Katet · « **Reply #5 on:** December 05, 2006, 20:30:44 pm »

Sorry I'm not sure what the big deal about a baby holding its own bottle is, I actually think it is sad that a special time of cuddling while holding it is wanted to be stopped

As for crawling, my ds#1 didn't crawl until 10.5mo & walked at 13.5 & his Dad didn't walk until 2yo & infact I believe 8mo is right on average.
Your child isn't slow or Lazy just working on different things... chances are she will be doing other things (like talk) at an earlier age than BIL baby.
I know your post wasn't intended to sound like it, but I read it & thought your poor daughter already being labeled lazy, what mother could think that about their child, what a high expectation mother. She is just developing at her own pace & I personally think you will realise in a few years time that it was good to have that time holding her while she had her bottle & be glad she wanted you there... there is nothing wrong with her & she definitely isn't LAZY

calebs mommy · « **Reply #6 on:** December 05, 2006, 20:31:37 pm »

My son, also 9 months old, can hold his bottle, but prefers me to do it. I am just enjoying it because before long the bottle days are over. I enjoy the moments of him snuggling in my lap because he is so busy these days.
About the crawling and walking... my friend's baby just started army crawling and she is 10.5 months old and didn't sit until 7 months. I guess they all do it in their own time. Don't worry, yours will get there when she is ready.

*Kimberly* · « **Reply #7 on:** December 05, 2006, 20:52:10 pm »

gemmah- My lo is 9 months and I also worry about him not holding his bottle. He does not feed himself yet either. He would much rather I do those things for him. I am not a big sentimental person so I do not feel sad about the possible loss of cuddle time, I quit breastfeeding at 3 weeks and did not feel any of the remorse that I know some people have. I am an independent person and I desire the same for my lo. Sometimes I worry that I am pushing my lo to much but at the same time I know him and I know what he is capable of. I know that he can feed himself and he can at least hold his bottle for part of the time. I do not feel bad for encouraging him to do these things.

I know what you mean about being lazy. We make our lo crawl to us when it is time for his bottle and sometimes he will refuse to come and will do his pretend cry. He can crawl but he would rather us come and get him. I know you did not mean it as an insult to your daughter.

Kimberly

* Paula * · « **Reply #8 on:** December 05, 2006, 21:14:57 pm »

I do agree, that all lo's develop at different times.

My DS only sat at 6 months, crawled at about 9.5 months and at 16 months still refuses to hold his own bottle. Although I know he can cause he has done it on the odd occasion, but he just does not like to. He will sit on my lap and say ta and give it to me to give to him. He drinks perfectly out of his sippy, but just prefers me to hold his bottles.

I would not worry too much about it.

Paula x

Lana · « **Reply #9 on:** December 05, 2006, 21:20:34 pm »

Ewan never held his bottle and Bram never has either. I love the fact that I get to hold and cuddle while he is having his bottle cause pretty soon he wont be having any. Now his sippy cup he holds on his own

ryan's mum · « **Reply #10 on:** December 05, 2006, 21:36:10 pm »

Ryan didn't hold his own bottle untill around 18 months , it didn't really bother me as i loved the cuddles and closeness we had whilst he drank his milk . I really missed it when he held it himself . There were times that it was a bit tricky like out shopping , i had to either stop to offer him a drink or try and push the pram whilst leaning over holding his water .I believe there are ways of helping them to hold their own bottle but i just left it to Ryan , when he was ready he did it .I wouldn't say it was laziness or slow development

owelley · « **Reply #11 on:** December 05, 2006, 21:56:29 pm »

I miss breastfeeding like crazy and I am grateful for the opportunity to hold dd's bottle. Or I just lay next to her while she touches my face the way she used to when she was still nursing. Glad you found the help you needed.

Duckie · « **Reply #12 on:** December 06, 2006, 00:42:44 am »

I'm actually discouraging my 8 month old from holding his bottle

...not that he wants to much, but I love hanging out with him at "bottle time" when we have our quiet time together. He's not crawling, either, nor is he clapping or waving, so I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. He also doesn't have a tooth in his head yet, but he babbles up a storm!

There is a difference between teaching a child to be independant and pushing it on them. Of course a 9 month old would prefer that you feed him/her...s/he's a BABY! My now 5 yr old sometimes wanted to be fed by me (spoon, not sippy) at 18 months, but now he does just fine on his own thankyouverymuch! "Making" your baby come to you when he'd rather not, rather than picking him up because you think he needs to learn to be independant just doesn't sound all that respectful. YMMV, of course.

*Kimberly* · « **Reply #13 on:** December 06, 2006, 01:22:21 am »

Yikes. I really didn't mean to cause problems. I will admit that I do push my son sometimes but I do not hold to the opinion of waiting until he figures it out himself. I would never do anything to harm him. I don't refuse to feed him if he will not hold his own bottle or feed himself solids, but I do encourage him to do both. I am also very respectful to my son. I do not make my son come to me. If he does not want his bottle and does not crawl to me then I don't make him. However, if he does want his bottle then I do wait for him to crawl to me. When he crys at those times it is not a real cry it is an attention cry.

I am a little sad to find that some people on this site seem to think that I am not being a good parent. When I make comments I try to only state what I have done and not to put someone else down for what they have done.

Kimberly

owelley · « **Reply #14 on:** December 06, 2006, 01:30:33 am »

Aww Kimberly,

Don't worry about it. I'm sure everyone was just stating how they felt about you said. I am SURE you are being a good parent!! I don't feel that anyone was questioning that!! I'm really sorry that you are sad.

Duckie · « **Reply #15 on:** December 06, 2006, 03:07:01 am »

Quote from: Tink on December 06, 2006, 01:22:21 am

Yikes. I really didn't mean to cause problems. I will admit that I do push my son sometimes but I do not hold to the opinion of waiting until he figures it out himself. I would never do anything to harm him. I don't refuse to feed him if he will not hold his own bottle or feed himself solids, but I do encourage him to do both. I am also very respectful to my son. I do not make my son come to me. If he does not want his bottle and does not crawl to me then I don't make him. However, if he does want his bottle then I do wait for him to crawl to me. When he crys at those times it is not a real cry it is an attention cry.

I am a little sad to find that some people on this site seem to think that I am not being a good parent. When I make comments I try to only state what I have done and not to put someone else down for what they have done.

I don't recall saying that you weren't a good parent. I was responding to your initial post and (in my defence!) you did say "We make our lo crawl to us when it is time for his bottle and sometimes he will refuse to come and will do his pretend cry". That was what I based my reply on. I apologize if I offended you.

Missy Lou · « **Reply #16 on:** December 06, 2006, 03:22:45 am »

gemmah - my LO is 9 months and she doesn't want to hold her bottle either. it sounds like from this thread it's pretty normal.

i think someone else posted before that things like that, babies do whenever. it has nothing to do with her development. she probably just doesn't care to hold it. there are other things she probably cares more about and will do those.

my LO seems to do things later than other babies but she does them so don't worry. one day, she'll be telling you she's hungry or making her own sandwich. that day will be soon too. $:-\$

Mum to Ella Rose · « **Reply #17 on:** December 06, 2006, 03:44:41 am »

Sounds to me like he just wants mommy snuggles! Fwiw, my dd could drink water out of an open cup by 4 months (kid you not) but NEVER held her own bottle.

*Kimberly* · « **Reply #18 on:** December 06, 2006, 03:47:37 am »

I just want to apologize for my poor wording in one of my previous posts. I also want to apologize for getting so upset. I just get defensive when people question how I am raising my son. Sorry.

Kimberly

xfionax · « **Reply #19 on:** December 06, 2006, 04:21:56 am »

My 9m LO can hold her bottle but doesn't. She's been able to hold it for a few months but loses interest very quickly. I don't mind because I intend to get her off bottles by 1 year anyway. She is also very lazy (not serious tone

) when it comes to the sippy cup. She will hold it to shake water / milk everywhere but I have to tip it in her mouth for her to drink. I'm sure she'll get the hang of it soon.

She sat at 5m, crawled at 6m, got teeth at 5m, and in the last two weeks has learnt to pull up on furniture, clap and blow kisses. She does more than my SIL's baby who is two weeks older and less than the baby who lives near by, who is also two weeks older. I constantly joke with friends and family about what each baby can and can't do. I have no problem calling my baby lazy/thick/stupid (in a very caring way

) when friends tell me their baby can do more and usually it doesn't cause any offense. But I can't say anything derogatory about her in my mum's presence!

If you can accept that your baby isn't the first/best at everything and can see the funny side of everyone's differences you'll be on a much easier parenting ride than if you can't. Parenting can be so competitive and parents can be so judgemental, it is helpful to have a sense of humour about it.

Missy Lou · « **Reply #20 on:** December 06, 2006, 04:45:21 am »

my LO won't wave bye or blow kisses. when she blows me a kiss, that little girl is going to get one big squeeze!!!

I'm like your mum xfionax. i've already had to tell FIL that no derogatory terms about LO around me. i've outlined the acceptable adjectives he can use to describe addison - perfect, beautiful, smart, lovely, funny, sweet. I'm just joking. at least a little bit.

melissa

woopster · « **Reply #21 on:** December 06, 2006, 09:46:01 am »

Sam held his bottle from about 6 months old. In fact, he would only drink it if HE was holding it. Lydia didn't hold her bottle until she was a year. Some nights she still won't hold it! They are both 18 months now. Every baby is different. They will do things when THEY are ready.

Michaela's Mom · « **Reply #22 on:** December 06, 2006, 12:49:03 pm »

Quote from: Tink on December 06, 2006, 03:47:37 am

I just want to apologize for my poor wording in one of my previous posts. I also want to apologize for getting so upset. I just get defensive when people question how I am raising my son. Sorry.

Kimberly

Kimberley,

Don't ever apologise for the way that you are raising your child - we all have different ways and means of coaxing our children. Michaela is 13 months old and also doesn't hold her own bottle and although i love snuggling up to her at night when she has her bedtime bottle, and feeding her, i sure wish she would hold it by herself at other times, like when we're in the middle of a shopping centre!

She will hold and drink out of anything that has a straw, but the moment she's given anything with a teat or spout, she will hold it, but refuses to lift it up to drink! strange child!

Michaela was also a late crawler (about 9.5 / 10 months) but started walking and talking up a storm just before her 1st birthday! so i guess anything could happen and usually does!

Anyway, your ds sounds like he's right on track. Don't worry about a thing - he'll go along at his own pace and no doubt he'll surprise you one day with something you thought he wouldn't be able to do for months yet!

Sharon

SallyDom · « **Reply #23 on:** December 06, 2006, 20:52:04 pm »

My little boy (8 months) didn't roll over until 5 months, sit safely until 7 months, and isn't yet crawling or clapping. On the other hand he has 7 teeth and can say hiya and dada which all our babies friends (all 9 from my ante natal group all meet up each week so the babies are the same age) don't do.
As people have already said babies do everything at different stages so I wouldn't worry about your daughter not holding her bottle. If you do really want her to though maybe you could try the Magic Handles that come with Avent beakers, they fit onto Avent bottles which would make it easier for your daughter to grip onto.
x

Missy Lou · « **Reply #24 on:** December 07, 2006, 01:08:14 am »

i had no idea the avent handles also fit on the bottles. addison actually doesn't like using the sippy either. she'll hold it and play with it but doesn't actally drink from it.

she loves to drink water but from a cup which obviously i have to hold or else water would be everywhere.

addison only started clapping in the past few weeks. we did a lot of pat-a-cake.

SallyDom · « **Reply #25 on:** December 07, 2006, 21:54:22 pm »

We do a lot of pat a cake too, Dom loves it and starts to smile whenever I start. I think he's close to clapping, a few times he's stretched his arms as far forward as he can and really concentrated on bringing his little hands together. It's like the slowest clap in the world. He does it once and then seems exhausted with all that effort. Bless him, he loves 'row row row the boat' and 'round and round the garden' as well!

Missy Lou · « **Reply #26 on:** December 08, 2006, 01:38:56 am »

how do you do row row row the boat? i know the song but is there something that you do with the song?

xfionax · « **Reply #27 on:** December 08, 2006, 04:11:19 am »

I do Row the Boat with Lucy in the bath. I just grab both arms and pull and push her forwards and backwards.
I tried to get her to clap for ages and she would just laugh.

Then I started doing High Fives with her and then one day she just clapped as I picked her out of her cot. I think she did it by accident but because I made such a fuss, she knew it was a good thing! She does about three claps and then loses it because she is so excited and proud of herself.

The kisses were also an accident really. She was doing this wierd thing with her mouth, like a goldfish, if that makes sense. So I copied her and gradually I changed what we were doing to a kiss noise. She doesn't do a hand movement with it, just the lip smack. For every two hundred kisses I blow to her, I probably get about five in return! She knows how to work it!

SallyDom · « **Reply #28 on:** December 09, 2006, 07:33:53 am »

My sister just learnt a 2nd verse of Row The Boat at one her baby groups, after rocking bacwards and forwards on the 1st verse start to rock side to side and sing (to the same tune obviously):
Rock rock rock the boat
Gently down the stream
If you see a crocodile
Don't forget to SCREAM

At the scream bit grab them and tickle, or lift them really high in the air or whatever. It really makes Dom laugh. I never knew there was a 2nd verse!

Sal
x

gemmah · « **Reply #29 on:** December 09, 2006, 09:55:19 am »

Hello, I did not realise I would get such a big response!!

Just wanted to say that a few of you said i should just enjoy cuddles and thats what my DD wants, YOUR ALL WRONG!! My dd doesn't DO cuddles, we cuddle her constantly but she wriggles out, we can't feed her in our arms ahe no longer likes it! If you get to snuule as you feed your babies then enjoy!

Also i actually agree with tink, it seems we have the same idea of wanting our LO's to be independant, i know she can hold her bottle and was just wanting idea's how to encourage her.

Katet: I think you may have taken my post a little to heart, i called my LO lazy because she gets it off her mother and her Grandad and her Great nan, its a family tradition and I DO NOT think being lazy is a bad thing!!!

Anyway thanks for all your posts i think i am just going to have to get her gradually on the sippy cup and hope her milk intake does not decrease.

Duckie · « **Reply #30 on:** December 09, 2006, 13:33:42 pm »

My aunt went to her doctor when her son was about the same age in a complete panic because he wouldn't hold his bottle. The doctor told her to go to a bar on Friday night and count how many college kids were there with their mothers holding a beer bottle for them. If she found one, she was to come back and he'd help her with the issue of bottle holding.

(NOT meant to be harsh or judgemental - just wanted to inject a little humour.

)

Certainly, we all want our children to be independant, my post was merely to point out that our babies are only babies for such a short time (as my 5.5 year old proves to me everyday

). Although the other morning when I had a lunch to make for Andrew for school, plus get out the snowsuits, etc and still had 3 ozs to give to Jacob, I did think, "Well, see NOW would be a great time for him to hold his bottle!"

gemmah · « **Reply #31 on:** December 09, 2006, 14:30:20 pm »

Yeh i am thinking of changing this thread to 'Lazy lazy mummy'.

Mum to Ella Rose · « **Reply #32 on:** December 09, 2006, 17:14:07 pm »

Sorry if I gave offence Gemmah.

And Duckie that's hysterical!

xfionax · « **Reply #33 on:** December 10, 2006, 02:44:07 am »

I'm glad someone else has a baby who isn't too keen on snuggles. I thought I was the only one!

Lucy is very into her personal space and our bottle time has never been very cuddly, just a means of getting a few calories down her.

Silas Mum · « **Reply #34 on:** December 10, 2006, 05:07:51 am »

And I'm glad that I've found others who don't have a snuggly baby ... mine just grunts and pushes away when you try to hold him!

SallyDom · « **Reply #35 on:** December 10, 2006, 09:25:26 am »

Dominic never was snuggly but seems to be getting more so just recently which is lovely, when he wakes up he likes to sit on our knee for ages and just chew a toy/remote/mobile phone.

Think he might be doing the SA thing though so we are probably going to go from one extreme to the other!

x

Silas Mum · « **Reply #36 on:** December 10, 2006, 15:45:10 pm »

Oh, I learn't a hard lesson when LO grabbed the remote ... it took FOREVER to re-program everything! Good thing I got the phone in time.

* Paula * · « **Reply #37 on:** December 10, 2006, 19:56:44 pm »

My DS was never very snuggly at all. From the age of about 4 months he would not take his bottle in our arms, we had to prop him up on the couch and let him drink it that way. Only once he turned 1 did he want to go back into our arms for a bottle.

Michaela's Mom · « **Reply #38 on:** December 12, 2006, 12:38:18 pm »

Oh, i agree about the snuggles thing - Michaela would also not drink from a bottle in our arms and we would have to prop it up for her to drink! She also hated kisses and cuddles and would actually scream blue murder if we tried to cuddle her - this all changed when she was about 11 months though and now she gives tons of kisses and hugs which, of course, is delightful!

Sharon

*Kimberly* · « **Reply #39 on:** December 16, 2006, 22:37:56 pm »

Yea for other mommies of non-snugglers. Mostly it is my lo's personality but I am sure some of it is because I never rocked him to sleep or did things like that.

We are currently visiting family in Hawaii and Brendan has begun to surprise us. He is now pulling himself up and crusing a tad. He also learned very quick how to get back down because they have laminate floors and it hurt the first couple times he fell. He also has been trying to hold his bottle a little bit and if we take it out too early he will kinda pull it back to his mouth. I am sure everything is a combo of being ready and the circumstances around us.

Kimberly

* Paula * · « **Reply #40 on:** December 17, 2006, 12:17:45 pm »

Thats great news Kimberly.

Way to go Brendan - What a big boy.

gemmah · « **Reply #41 on:** December 22, 2006, 16:55:40 pm »

My LO only cuddles us when we wake her, so me and DP fight to get her out of bed in the morning but that doesn't last 5 mins and we trying to pass her back again!
I never let her fall asleep on me after an early age so she probably thinks i am mad when try and cuddle and kiss her.

I hope she wants cuddles soon, i want something back for all my hard work!!!

Michaela's Mom · « **Reply #42 on:** December 31, 2006, 09:01:43 am »

I posted on here a couple of weeks ago about dd not holding her bottle at 13 months and said that one day, all of these precious souls will totally surprise us and do something we didn't think they could do - lo and behold, 2 days before xmas, doesn't my dd pick up her bottle from where i had put it down on the table to feed her, and start drinking!

now she holds her bottle all the time (except her snuggle time evening bottle which she still insists that i hold for her).

Ahh, life is full of surprises!

Sharon

Lªuren · « **Reply #43 on:** December 31, 2006, 10:11:40 am »

Great news Sharon!! Well done Michaela

* Paula * · « **Reply #44 on:** December 31, 2006, 13:10:31 pm »

That is fantastic news. My DS at 17 months still is not interested in holiding his bottle. I do enjoy the cuddles at night, so am not worried.

Eden&Connor'sMom · « **Reply #45 on:** January 03, 2007, 14:46:20 pm »

I'm not sure why you think your child should be doing things like holding a bottle, etc., so early. The typical age for crawling is 9 months, for holding their own bottle is 11 months, clapping at 8 months, and sitting up at 6 months. I'd say your baby is doing great!

Missy Lou · « **Reply #46 on:** January 03, 2007, 15:34:14 pm »

edensmom - your LO is beautiful!

just to give you an idea - addison just started insisting on holding her bottle. she's about 10.5 months; 10 months adjusted.

xfionax · « **Reply #47 on:** January 05, 2007, 02:06:07 am »

My little lazy one just started holding her bottle last week. She turned 10 months on the 26th and must have decided that was the right time for her. She only has her bottle at bedtime now and she holds it while I dry her and put on her pyjamas, then she will actually let me snuggle her up while she finishes it off. She has really changed from a no-snuggling lazy girl to a cuddly-kissy independent drinker this holiday. Maybe Santa swapped her!

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Author Topic: LAZY LAZY BABY!!! (Read 5936 times)