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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #30 on: April 22, 2010, 10:23:49 am »
LOL, I'll vote for your DH being the nuts one! 
In a toddler's mind, what rule is there that says cars can't kiss?!  He's not aware cars don't usually kiss (but we also watch cartoons like cars and Thomas the tank engine so it's pretty normal he'd play with that).
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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #31 on: April 22, 2010, 10:59:30 am »
VERY normal... my vote is DH as well


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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #32 on: April 22, 2010, 11:20:56 am »
Playing with cars like they're alive is probably even MORE normal than sitting in a closet!

Yes, your DH has issues! :D Then again, we've all read about your IL's..... ::) That might explain a great deal....

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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #33 on: April 22, 2010, 11:56:36 am »
LOL

As tempting as it is to say you Mashi, I'll too have to go with DH!

Besides, when Roop was driving his car it 'kissed' another car ;) :P

I think it's perfectly normal myself, he's just role playing. It just happens to be with cars.
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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #34 on: April 22, 2010, 12:06:53 pm »
LOL

As tempting as it is to say you Mashi, I'll too have to go with DH!

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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #35 on: April 22, 2010, 13:02:56 pm »
My DS always kisses penguins...pictures of penguins, toy penguins....DH taught him to kiss by giving 'Mr Penguin" a kiss and it just went on from there....LOL

I remember loving being shut in the wardrobe too...I am a bit odd I suppose but nothing out of the ordinary :)

I think your DH needs to stop worrying, your LO sounds lovely and bright to me :)
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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #36 on: April 22, 2010, 13:03:37 pm »
Just happened upon this thread and have read thru it all - every toddler I know has their own little 'quirks' which may be odd to some folk, but perfectly normal to others, kwim? Alice goes thru different phases all the time - which seem a bit obsessive sometimes, but I just let it slide (as does DH) as before you know it she's doing something different.

I don't think the closet hiding or the cars kissing is weird . . . I have to say that it's your DH I'm worried about LOL!  ;) :-*

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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #37 on: April 22, 2010, 13:09:02 pm »
I think your DH needs to remind himself that toddlers are different to school kids!

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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #38 on: April 22, 2010, 13:11:50 pm »
And besides. Your DH is British. We are all weird in our own way :P
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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #39 on: April 22, 2010, 16:31:54 pm »
are you writing any of this down? I started a journal of funny things DS does/says and have 4.5 years of great stuff to share with him when he gets older.  SIL did this with her kids who are now in their early teens and they LOVE to have it read to them and laugh at all the silly stuff they used to do.  I say ignore your DH and let your LO be himself!  Why try to change him?

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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #40 on: April 22, 2010, 16:44:34 pm »
I sometimes have to remind my DH, especially when one or the other or both of mine are being especially difficult (ar at least not the way DH would like them to be at that moment), to just shut up and love the kids he HAS, not the ones he WISHES he had. Those kids may or may not live here, but Josie and Natalie DO, and they love him to bits, even when they're treating him like cr@p (or tickling him instead of going to sleep, or whatever). ::)
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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #41 on: April 22, 2010, 16:57:34 pm »
Definitely should start writing them all down. His baby book is collecting dust and I should get off my butt and do something with it!

I guess I have given a bad impression of my DH - he is not trying to "change" DS nor does he wish he had a different child and not love him to bits for who he is. Not at all like that.  This is all in the tone of "Uh, is that normal?" or "Um, do you really think you should be encouraging that?" Sort of in the same tone that he was not impressed when I bought DS a doll and says he is totally against it and does not agree that it is acceptable for boys to be playing with dolls ( ::) ) but yet he plays with DS and his dolls every night, sets up tea parties for them, plays hide and seek with them (DH hides the doll and DS goes searching for it with his flashlight, then DS hides him and comes and gets DH and shows him where to look :P ), and then moans and complains to me that DS should not be playing dolls when he's a boy.  So it's all in that "tone" iykwim, not in a "this is a huge issue" tone. 


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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #42 on: April 22, 2010, 17:11:22 pm »
So your dh is worried about mini-mashi making his cars kiss and then sets tea parties with dolls - that's a new one! :D :D :D
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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #43 on: April 22, 2010, 17:31:14 pm »
It sounds like a laugh a minute with mini-Mashi! LOL!
My DS likes being closed in cupboards too.  Used to think it was a bit strange that he'd ask to be shut in a cupboard that he couldn't open himself, but he seemed to like it and doesn't ask to do it so much any more.  That said, he's put himself in the pan drawer in the kitchen (after turfing out all the pans) and asked for that to be closed too and regularly tries to get in the lockers at the swimming pool and (guess what?!) closes the door behind him!  All the other mums think it's hysterical.  Gives me some peace and quiet to get dried and dressed, so that's all good :D

Love the kissing cars too.  Is it just that they're not human/animal that's the problem?  Would it be different for your DH if it was two stuffed toys, I wonder?  Men are just odd sometimes, so it's little wonder that little boys would be!!
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Re: OK, so is my toddler a bit odd, or not?! (Another one, top of p3)
« Reply #44 on: April 22, 2010, 17:33:05 pm »
LOL Mashi!!  Bless your DH!  

From a development point of view (maybe you can reassure DH!) toddlers see inanimate objects in the same way they view people and attribute them with the same qualities etc.  Thats why it takes toddlers a while to get pronouns and you'll frequently hear them talking about toys/vehicles etc as if they were people and referring to them as he/she as opposed to 'it'!

I am actually really impressed by the level of your DS imaginative play.  Its really complex for his age.  

And what is it with men!  My DH was distressed the other day when DD went to play with his nephew and he pulled out dolls and nappies to play with.  Went on for hours about how his sister shouldn't be letting him have them!  Then I told him that she frequently paint his nails when he asks so that nearly finished him off!!!