Hello,
I've posted before about this recently, and thought I was getting somewhere with my 13 mo. old son's early wakings. Well, things seem to be getting worse again and I feel like I'm literally at the end of my rope. Here is a summary of our situation:
-About a month ago, I started the gradual withdrawel method of sleep training, and within a few nights my son was falling asleep independently in his crib and sleeping through the night. At this same time, he began waking every morning between 4:30-5:00 (whereas before, when he woke at night and got nursed back to sleep, he would sleep till 6:00-7:00am).
-A couple of weeks after sleep training at night, I started nap training, which proved to be much more difficult. I do a winddown, reading him a quiet book in the rocking chair and then holding him for another minute while I hum softly to him. Then I put him in the crib drowsy, and rub his back. Often he will pop up and begin crying, or he will lay there quietly but then begin talking and babbling to himself until he gets a second wind. There have been quite a few nap attempts that weren't successful, and I had to resort to taking him out in the stroller just so he'd get some sleep that day. I had always nursed him down for naps, but I'm now breaking that habit and it seems like the only way he'll go down for a nap on his own is when he's truly and utterly exhausted. Or, sometimes my husband puts him down for a nap, which entails him holding him in the rocking chair and singing to him while my son screams and cries until passing out from exhaustion.
-Because most of the time he wakes up at 4:37am on the dot, I decided to try w2s. Once last week with no success, and then last night I decided to try again. I went in to him at 3:30am and tried to get him to stir, but he was immovable. I stroked his head, held his hand, patted his belly, and he barely moved! So needless to say it didn't work for me this morning.
-We've been dealing with separation anxiety for the past couple of months, so I'm hesitant to do wo/wi. Instead, I've found that staying in his room with him while he falls asleep for naps works best. At night, I've gotten to the point where I can leave the room and he'll fall asleep on his own.
Here's what a typical day looks like lately:
4:30-5:00am wakeup; I stay in room with him until 5:30-6:00am, then we get up and nurse
7:00am breakfast (cereal and cup of water)
9:30am snack (part of a whole wheat bagel and cup of milk)
11:00-11:30am lunch (solids and cup of water and/or milk)
12:30-1:00pm goes down for nap (finally - this is after attempting a nap at least a couple of times during the morning)
2:30-3:00pm wakes up from nap (although sometimes the nap is only 1 1/2 hrs, but lately it's been 2 hrs)
3:30pm snack (crackers/cheerios and cup of milk)
5:00pm dinner (solids and cup of water)
6:00-6:30pm bath (sometimes another little bit of milk before bath)
7:00-7:30pm asleep for night
I came to the conclusion last week that he was ready to transition to one nap a day, which is why he was waking up so early in the morning. For a couple of days, it really seemed to help to keep him up and have him nap for 2 hrs in the middle of the day, and then get him down by 7:30pm at the latest for the night. There have been a couple of mornings where he's slept till 5:30, but this morning he was back up at 4:37 once again.
If anyone has any suggestions for what I can do differently, please let me know. I'm so foggy with lack of sleep that I can't even think straight anymore, and feel like I'm running out of options.
Thanks,
Jennifer