I am taking a new approach. One thing at a time

[Colesmom]

Okay, here goes.  New approach before I lose my mind.  I just had a good heart to heart with myself while i waited for the 40 min. jolt and failed.  In the last week and a half, this is what has changed in DSs life, or what I have forced on him:

1) totally removed swaddle-had been one arm out for 6 weeks, and started breaking out hour on the hour so removed completely

2) one week ago thursday, started PUPD sleep training as he had always fallen asleep in my arms before being put down.

3) at same time, started trying to extend his naps...figuring this would help him sleep better at night

4) moving to 4 hour feed schedule.

5) oh, almost forgot, ditched the paci last week with onset of PUPD training.

6) oh yes, and i had accidentally parented him to falling back to sleep with me when he woke in the night.

i accidentally parented him into a huge huge mess.

he slept 7:40-11:00DF and 11:30-5:20 last night, i'm going to take heart that that's improving at least!

My poor sweet baby Cole.  What have I done.  I can't believe he's actually still a happy, content baby with all that going on.

So, my new approach is to teach him how to sleep first.  So I will do pupd as necessary to get him to sleep at all sleep times.  I am not going to force longer naps yet, as that just seems to be too much at once right now.  Learn to sleep, then learn to STAY asleep.

does anyone agree that this might be a more reasonable approach?

i sure hope so because i'm about to lose it!

Traci

[kellyhushhh]

Hi traci, yes my ds did sleep by himself when i extended his awake time.  I think like you say its all been a bit too much all at once. Try working on getting him to sleep by himself during the day and then hopefully the night time will sort its self.  I really cant help much more. i feel for you as i went through this eight years ago, my son didnt sleep until he was 4, im not kidding either!!

Good luck and just remember there are so many great ladies who can give you advice 24hrs a day

Kelly xx

[Matthew's Mommy]

Give yourself a big hug and tons of grace.  You're a mama and there is not such thing as a perfect mama! (if someone says they are.. then they are lying!)

Definately the place to start is teaching sleep.

Dont' worry.. it's going to get better.. you are in the thick of it right now.

Hugs,