Big thanks to everyone on the BW forum. I have a solely BF 15 wk old who has never been a good sleeper. Since he was a newborn, I was aware of the BW principles and EASY routine. We followed those principles, but were not aiming for a 3 hour routine until he was about 10 weeks old. This was because at 9 weeks we moved countries, from Australia to Switzerland.
So, at 10 weeks we really tried to improve the EASY. We were pretty successful, he didn't require any props to be put to sleep, just shh/pat method for about 10-15 minutes each time. His eating was about 3 hours apart during the day. Sometimes a bit more, sometimes a bit less. With lots of effort, we could get him to nap longer that 40 minutes, but not all the time. Recently, this has reverted back to the 40 minutes nap dilemma.
But nights were never quite right. He would sleep for 2 chunks of 3 hours or so, but after that starts waking up every 1.5-2 hours. His NW are always at different times (indicating that he is truly hungry), but generally at the same intervals after the dream feed. This is because we also cannot seem to get him to sleep at the same time each night, and usually not before 9pm. He is very unsettled in the evenings and takes hours to put down for the night. During the NW, we've tried to shh/pat him back to sleep, but he becomes very agitated.
Knowing that each week he gets older and can go for longer between feeds and more activity time, I tried to transition from 3 hour EASY towards the 4 hour EASY. But, there have been no improvement to the nights. I should mention, and you will see below, that my LO can go for almost 6 hours without eating. Last night he had his last E start at 7:08pm. I decided to skip the dream feed to see if it affected the NW (it didn't). So, without a DF, he woke at 12:50am, almost 6 hours from the start of his last E.
I would very much appreciate help/guidance/support in what to tackle first, as everything is interrelated (and messed up!). Given that he is 15 weeks, I can't decide how long the EASY cycle should be and if I should just start it cold turkey, rather than transitioning from the current situation. After 15 weeks of minimal sleep for me, I am wondering what I have done incorrectly and need help! In the past he has randomly gone for 5 hours or so without eating, so I think he is perfectly capable to do it regularly and my supply is not the problem.
Here's the EASY for the past day or so. You will notice that we get all messed up when he only takes 40 minute naps. It turns into EASAEAS -- nap cues start aligning with the time E should start, so I can't decide whether to feed him early or feed him on time and be OT. I realise that many of his A times are way too long, but despite all our efforts to settle him, he will not go to sleep.
WU: 8:45am
E: 9:45-10:10
A: (8:45) - 10:30
S:10:30 - 11:15
A:11:15 start
E: 12:55 - 1:20
A: (11:15) - 1:50 !!
S: 1:50 - 2:40
A: 2:40 start
E: 4:05 - 4:25
A: (2:40) - 4:40
S: 4:40 - 5:20
A: 5:20 start
E: 7:08 - 7:35
A: (5:20) - 8:50 !!!!!
S: 8:50 - 12:45 (no DF)
E: 12:45am - 1:05
S: 1:05 - 3 (approx)*
E: 3 - 3:15 (approx)*
S: 3:15 - 5 (approx)*
E: 5 - 5:30 (approx)*
S: 5:30 - 7:30 (approx)*
*These are all approximate times because honestly I am half asleep and can't remember the time in the morning (to write them down). I am sure that only 1.5 - 2 hours goes by between each interval as I always check the clock when he wakes up (to access how long its been since his last E).
WU/E: 9:30 - 10:00
A: 9:30 - tried to settle from 11am
E: 11:25 - 11:40 (wanted to eat again)
A: 11:40 - 12:05 trying to put to sleep
S: 12:05 - 1:05 (present time -- it looks like he made it past 40 minutes
MANY THANKS!