Thanks Becj86,
I hope you all don't mind my trying to work this through with my frequent updates. All your feedback has been helpful and I am able to go back and look at what I've written to try and find patterns.
So I have the last 2 nights moving in a better direction for you to help me to interpret. After our hard night up for hours where I gave in and fed her, I worked on just letting her get 2 good naps since I figured she was OT. I also tried to make sure she did a better job BF during the day and topped her off with just 2 oz of formula right after my last BF before bed. Bed both nights at 7. First night she woke at 3am so 8 hr stretch! Even though I didn't get the whole benefit of it. Well she was just fussing so I stood outside her door instead of going in. After 15 mins she fell asleep but only for 15 mins and then she woke really crying. So I fed her since she slept 8 hrs and it had been almost 9hr since her last feed. She then slept from about 350 to 820.
So this day I tried to extend her A times a bit.
She went down for a nap at 1045 so about 2.5hr A time.
Woke at 1215 for 1.5 hr nap.
She was tired and rubbing her eyes at 230 so only 2hr 15 min A.
Woke about 410 so 1hr 40min nap.
Last feed at 630 with added 2oz formula and then bed at 7.
So this night she wakes crying very hard at midnight. Her dad tried to settle her for awhile but every time he would put her back in the crib she would scream. It had been about 6hrs since her last feed and she was not letting up so I fed her. She went right back down after a full feed and slept until 830! This time I actually got sleep too! Yay!
Ok so I am thinking that since she is taking a full feed and not just falling asleep right when I nurse her that she is actually hungry. I take her off when she slows down and put her in her crib barely awake, she might protest and I give her the paci and she is out.
Or maybe I am APOP, hopefully we can see a trend in next few nights.