We are having a lot of trouble with our 9 m/o DS, we have been through an intensive sleep clinic programme here in the UK with our 3 y/o as well as combining Tracy's techniques which helped us out. Son No.1 was a dreadful sleeper from the get go, and a touchy baby so we went through a good 2+ years of bad sleep deprivation.
I've answered the FAQs here and also summarised the issue:
How old is your child? 9 months
What’s his/her daily routine?
At the moment 4.00am BF,
6.00am Awake
6.45 Solids
8.30am Sleep in car while on way to kindergarten
9.00am Awake as we get home, will NOT transfer into bed
10.00 BF
11.30 Sleep in car while on way to kindergarten
12.00 Awake as we get home, will NOT transfer into bed
12.00 Solids
1.30pm/2.00pm Attempt to get to sleep with limited success, often falls asleep in car/buggy as we are at football/swimming
3.00pm BF
4.30pm Supper
6.00pm BF
6.15pm Bath, Bed, Book
6.30pm Sleep
What’s nap routine? As above
How long are naps? MAX 45 mins, have been since about 6 weeks
What's bedtime routine? Above
Do you bottle or breastfed?? BF
How much? or how long? Above
If breastfed.. one side or both?? (at each feed)
How many wakes per night? Normally once or twice but for up to 2 hours
What’s your LO like when waking at night? How long is he/she up? Distressed, up to 2 hours each time
When you go to him/her is she fussing or crying? Or is it a mantra cry? We give him about five minutes then go in to shush every 5 minutes
What have you tried to settle?? Only when getting very distressed, BF
What do you do for A time and how long is it? Crawling, playing with big brother, reading
Are there developmental issues such as teething or milestones? Teething and cruising
Have you introduced cereal? Why, how much, and how many times a day? (for LO’s under 6 months)
Do they have a prop? If so what is it? No
Do they have a lovie? Soft toy in bed
So the problems are:
Bad day naps
I have to do stuff with my 3 y/o at fixed points in the day, and this means that No.2 is only getting cat naps in the car and won't transfer into bed or buggy to continue sleeping. We try to have a minimum 2 days per week where we don't go out so he can sleep in bed but he will still only sleep for a max of 45 mins, twice a day. I've tried to go and comfort him 5 mins before he would normally wake but this has not worked in extending his day naps.
Screaming every time he gets put into bed
We have recently moved into a short term rental apartment as we are about to go travelling for 3 1/2 months before moving back to Australia, this also seems to have unsettled him as he used to go to sleep without a problem but now screams the house down the second he goes to get put into bed. He is sleeping in a travel cot with a proper mattress in it, we put him into this about two weeks before we moved so he was used to it, he has all the same toys in the bed.
Night Wakings
We had managed to wean him off night feeds at about 7 months by only offering water, he got the message after about a week. We then had about a week before we moved and since we have had frequent night wakings where he is very distressed. We use the controlled crying technique of going to him every 5 minutes to pat him on the bottom and shush him. This had previously worked when he was waking and wasn't so distressed but now won't as he stands up in his cot and screams and screams and screams. We are on the top floor of an apartment block full of old people so I don't feel that I can just let him go, and he is also in the same room as us. DH has to get up at 6.00am to get to work so another reason I have just resorted to feeding him, this quietens him down but often he will just start up again after he had fed, although not at the same ferocity. I have not tried PU/PD (it didn't work with No.1, we had to go controlled crying) as we just haven't got the luxury of inconveniencing the whole apartment block for hours in the middle of the night.
We have a very consistent, quiet naptime and bedtime routine I just don't know whether he is simply overtired plus confused and going through separation. In which case we can't do any more than we are, and just hope he gets the message.
At all other times he is an angel, very happy, relaxed and smiley. He is a great eater and is very chilled out. Sleep is just our problem. Any ideas would be great as we are not looking forward to the havoc that the travel is going to create if he is this bad now.
Yours in sleep deprivation.