So I've seen the other thread you started and realised she's nearly 4 months old! Wow!
When she wakes at 5am, you don't need to do A time. You just feed her, change nappy if necessary and put her down to go back to sleep. No interacting - its sleep time, not play time. Don't make being awake attractive.
If you increase that A time after she wakes for the day (7am this morning), she will be OT but she will also be encouraged to sleep later in the morning. Its only an hour at the moment and should be much closer to 2hr by now so that's likely why she wants to play instead of going back to sleep when she wakes for a feed in the night.
E 1230. I went in and she stirred on me going in so I said hello
A 100
S 230 two bursts of ten mins. One in arms. Fighting.
This is likely because she's overtired. You've jumped from 1hr A times to 2hr.
E 300
A 3.30
S 5.00
Resettled 5.20 by rocking continuously. She was awake til feed
Again, very OT with 2hr A time after 2x10min nap.
The alertness and likely happy, giggly reactions to everything you're seeing in the afternoon is probably a sign that she's OT.
So my thoughts re: making things more consistent are:
Try to have a consistent 1.5hr A time through the day (shift the routine to start when she wakes), like this:
7 wake, feed
8:30 nap
10:30 wake, feed (fine if this is 10 but based on how she goes at the moment, probably 2hr is realistic)
12 nap
1:30 wake, feed
3 nap
4:30 wake, feed (now is the time for dad to come home and play
)
6 ~30min catnap (this can be a nap on dad while he goes for a walk or something...)
8pm asleep in bed
Now I suspect she will wake at 30min into some of these naps initially but you shiuld be able to resettle if you stay with her from 20min into the nap and just shush/pat or whatever you do to setttle her through that stirring. Don't wait for her to wake and cry - she'll likely get quite worked up and not resettle that way. I also think her nights might take a hit initially because she'll be sleeping better during that day and I think at the moment, she's crashing and sleeping such a long stretch because she's exhausted by the end of the day.
Give this 1.5hr A time 3-4 days and then we can reassess. She may by then be ready for 1:45 A times.