This post could cover a whole load of categories, I'm sorry if I've chosen the wrong one, we are
in a bit of a mess.
M is 5.5 months now, and his night times are getting worse and worse. I introduced a dummy at 18 weeks to help with daytime sleep (which it did he self settles with it quite well for naps). He wakes for 2 night feeds (bf) at night but the dummy caused him to wake every hour
we're past that now and he tends to go bed at about 7:15 then sleep till midnight but after that first feed he just won't settle. We've gotten into bad habits and he just wants to sleep in bed with me, but even then he doesn't settle and last night he was awake between 3:30 and 5. My husband is sleeping on the sofa and I am exhausted.
I know it's partly our fault for getting into bad habits and I need to be strong and try pu/pd to try and tackle this. But I do feel we have an EASY problem.
Wake and E 07:00
A can manage about 2hrs 15 before very grumpy
S 9:15 this nap for the last week has been 45 mins and unable to resettle
E 11:00
S 12:00 this nap he will literally sleep for hours and hours yesterday I woke him after 2hrs 20, the day before 3 hours (just when he's sleeping I get time with L so I'm loathe to wake him)
E 3:00
S 5:00 45 min catnap
Bedtime about 7:15
Wakes at 00:00 feed (feed to sleep)
Wakes at 3:30 (feed to sleep)
Unsettled for the rest of the night. If we co sleep he settles better but if I try and put him down he wakes either immediately or after 45 mins.
I'm clueless as to how to work the rest of the routine after the 45 minute nap. I've been slowly extending his A time but he gets really grumpy by then. I know the long nap at 12 isn't helping matters but if I woke him up after 1.5/2 hours so say 1:30 or 2 pm how would I plan the rest of the day re naps? Also I think the nw's are leaving him knackered.
He sometimes responds to turning onto his tummy, sometimes he hates this. Has the dummy and a lovey, the dummy sometimes needs to be placed a few times before he settle as he drops it (I think he is pulling it out accidentally) but otherwise at naps and bedtime he self settles well. I desperately need a cot, he's outgrowing the crib (currently about 21lb), but he naps well in the crib and the first half of the night too.
If you have got this far, thank you for reading and I would really appreciate any advice because I'm starting to get very stressed out, my daughter bless her is really missing my time and attention. This forum was a saviour when she was little.
Bec x