I am seriously beginning to doubt everything I thought I knew about my baby
OK, I apologise in advance for the huge post I am about to write.
So LO is now 13 weeks (10 weeks corrected). Still EBF, and during the day his feeding is all over the place. I thought I had figured out his hunger cry, but now that his rooting reflex has disappeared, I've realised that I was just using the rooting to identify hunger.... I was making him boob dumb and feeding at most of his "severe" cries if 2 hours or more had passed. He wasn't taking a full feed, just 5-10 mins. Full feed now seems to be approx. 12-15 mins draining one full boob, and I then offer the second but usually he doesn't take any, or only a couple of mins so I started not bothering to offer it most of the time. I decided I needed to try and stop this behaviour, so was trying to stall his feeds until 2.5-3 hours as I believe he should easily cope with that. When I pump one boob I can get 4-5 oz easily, so he must be getting 5-6 oz from one boob at a full feed. His weight gain is fine, 50th centile, now over 13lbs (last weighed 2 weeks ago).
I had a few good days getting him to feed at close to 3 hours every time. Sometimes when he had been sleeping in his pram (APOP), he could easily go 3.5-4 hours. I just can't figure out his hunger cries until he is at the full screaming stage though, and obviously don't want him to get to this point so I am still unsure of when to feed him. It is so upsetting to me that I still haven't figured him out at 13 weeks.
Second feeding issue is that the last few days he has really started falling asleep on the boob which was never an issue before. Because of his screwed up naps (see below), his feeds don't always follow EASY and so sometimes I am feeding him half an hour before he is due to sleep again because I don't want him waking up hungry. Then he falls asleep on the boob, doesn't take a full feed and wakes up hungry anyway....and again doesn't take a full feed, or ends up OT because he didn't sleep. Another vicious circle and I find it hard to then stop him snacking for the rest of the day.
1. What should I do about the feeding? I'm guessing the point is to try and make him wait until I get proper hunger cues and then he will take a full feed and go longer between feeds.
2. When he falls asleep on the boob, do I count that as sleep? So he may end up dozing 10 mins of his feed + 10 mins when he pulls off and then wake up. Should I count that as 20 mins sleep, and start his next A time from then and reduce that A time before his next sleep?
His nighttime sleep is now getting MUCH MUCH better. Hurray! We got through the madness of Christmas and his second WW, and for the last few days we have repeatedly had BT between 7.30-8.30pm, waking for a feed sometime around 3-4am, and then usually another one waking before his 6.30-7am proper WU.
3. After he wakes at 3-4am and is fed, I'm guessing I shouldn't feed him if he wakes again before WU? I admit I have been feeding him, as it's the easiest way to get him back to sleep, plus at the 3-4am wake up he sometimes only feeds for 5-10mins again so not a full feed and I feel like he might then be hungry when he wakes at 5am so I end up feeding him.
Naps are still a major issue. I feel like the erratic feeding isn't helping, and I'm still just focussing on trying to get his first nap right. Yesterday he was such a happy baby in the morning, and then his first nap he went down so easily that I was hopeful we had perhaps caught up on his OT, and could finally get this sorted. The day just went downhill! I'll post yesterday's EASY including his NWs from the night before, if anyone can spot anything obvious, please shout out.
Tuesday 30th Dec
E 2.30am (8 mins L)
S 2.45am
E 4am (9 mins L, 10 mins R - fed from same side first as wasn't a full feed at 2.30am and then onto second boob)
S 4.30am
WU 6.50am didn't seem hungry yet so did nappy change first
E 7.30am (23 mins R) he also dozed off during feed for 15 mins
A 8.10am
S 9.05am 45 mins. Settled very easily in his cot with ssh & hand on his tummy and sucking/chewing my finger for a few mins before closing his eyes
E 9.50am (5 mins L) Distracted and then pooed
A 10am (nappy change)
E 10.40am (34 mins L). Dozed on boob 20 mins
A 11.20am
S 12.20pm (19 mins L). Dozed on boob 20 mins
E 12.45pm (7 mins R)
A 1pm
S 2.20pm Took out in pram as wouldn't settle at all. Walked for 1 hour and then left him sleeping in pram at home for another hour.
E 4.30pm (33 mins L). Dozed on boob again even after his big nap!
A 5.15pm play and then BT routine with bath etc
E 6.20pm (wouldn't settle a few times when I put him down as was still hungry so ended up being total of 25 mins R and 16 mins L with some dozing in between)
S 8.15pm
E 10.45pm (6 mins R) - has been skipping this feed for a few weeks most days recently
S 11pm - 3.20am (he was babbling to himself and wriggling for a while before crying out)
E 3.45am (11 mins L)
S 4am
E 5.10am (12 mins L)
S 5.25am
WU 6.30am
I know my L/R seem to be all over the place... I had oversupply issues with foremilk/hindmilk issues a few weeks ago, and so have been going by whether my boobs feel soft after the end of a feed as to whether to start him on the same side next feed. I think part of that problem related to the constant snacking so he was only ever getting foremilk. If he takes a full feed I always switch sides the next time.
I have loads more info too... he just came out of the second WW and is starting to find his hands. Most of his A time at the min he is either sat in his bouncy chair trying to get his fist in his mouth, or lying on his playmat kicking/trying to roll etc. Added to this, I think he may be teething. As I'm FTM, and he is so little and it would be his first teeth, I am not sure! He has a lot more drool than usual but not like it is dribbling down his chin, just that he is blowing bubbles etc (which could be WW related anyway). He is constantly trying to get his hands in his mouth, but again this could be WW related!
Final point.... from the BW quiz, he comes out as mainly touchy. But now I'm wondering if he might just be bored and that is why he cries...which I then mistake for hunger and he doesn't eat properly... I am just SOOOO confused and now doubting everything!
Sorry for the length of this post, just trying to give all the background info!