Hello ladies! I'm back and in a much better place than I was last time I posted. After my disastrous night I went and bought Dr. Ferber's book and found it to be very helpful, although I have not and will not follow the cry it out method in his book I found a lot of the other information to be great. For one thing, it stated that a six month old needs 11.5 to 13.5 hours of total sleep in 24 hours, which is somewhat significantly less than the 14-16 that Tracy suggests and from what I was trying to get my LO to do. I feel horrible that it took me this long to figure it out, but I think one of the fundamental problems was that I was expecting her to sleep too much. I think that she was bouncing back and forth between overtired and undertired which is why we were having such a hard time figuring out which way to go to solve her problem. If nothing else the Ferber book reassured me that under my new routine my LO would be getting "enough" sleep.
Now, things are by no means perfect, but in the last 9 days she has only had one day where she didn't nap well and only one night where she was up during the night. My biggest issue right now is that she wakes up between 5:45 and 6:15 a.m. and I would like for it to be closer to 6:30, but she is content to play in her crib until 6:30 so that is what I've been doing.
I've been following momofclaire's EASY with just a few changes. So, a typical day this week has looked like this:
wake up at 6:00
E: 6:30
A: cereal and fruit at 8:00
S: 8:30
E: 10:00
A: vegetable or fruit at 11:30
S: 12:30
E: 2:00
A:
S: 4:30
E: 5:00
A:
bath between 6:45 and 7:00, in bed between 7:15 and 7:30, asleep by 7:45 or 8:00
I've been writing everything down and it seems that 3.5 hours of naps and 10-10.5 hours at night is what works for us. We still have some things to work on, like the early wake up time, but our days have been much more consistent and pleasant. Plus, the one night where she did wake up in the middle of the night she was up for an hour, but never cried just grunted and made noise and put herself back to sleep, so I never even had to get out of bed!!! And that was the night when she hadn't napped well so it made sense why she was having a rough night.
Although I read the Ferber book it was really just reassuring me that a little less sleep was okay. It was really all of the advice from you all that got me to this point. I really, really appreciate all of the support and advice which is why I wanted to come back and let you guys know that it seems as though we've turned a corner. The later bedtime and letting her stay awake when she gets up at 6:00 have made a big difference.
If you have any suggestions on the early wakings I would appreciate it. I'm not too worried about it since she is happy to play until 6:30...I'm thinking she might catch on if I continue to leave her in there until 6:30??
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR EVERYTHING!!!