My dd is 2 1/2 and lately, she gets really wound up and won't lie down for her nap. I know she needs it because she will sleep 2-3 hours once she is asleep. Also she acts tired, with the funny voice, and big circles under her eyes and wild behavior if she doesn't get her nap. She has a lot of trouble going to bed at night if she doesn't get her nap.
To get her to sleep, lately when she is really wild, I hold her down in her bed. I don't like it and she doesn't like it, but she cries for 10 minutes and then she goes out like a light.
I'm really against corporal punishment and spanking. I'd do pick up/put down, but she's too heavy for it. I get worn out, pull a muscle in my back, and have to give up. Besides, for some reason she thinks pu/pd is a game and laughs at me if I try to do it. She just bounces up and down.
So I find it easier to hold her down. If she stops trying to get up, I let her go. Today, I just warned her I would hold her down if she didn't lie down, and she did, and she went to sleep, so that worked. I am really trying to do this in a way that's just restraining her and not violent or scary or angry. I tried singing to her and saying "shhh" but she just got angrier so I stopped doing that and now I just say "lie down" in a low voice.
I'm worried this is going to have some kind of bad psychological effect on her--but I'm worried that not sleeping will have an even worse effect on her development.
Do you think this is bad and will have bad psychological reprocussions?