Time zone travel is usually one sleep for every hour of time zone change & so if you travelled 5 hours different zone then in 3 nights & 2 naps she should be back to normal, so it's really more that you haven't found your normal rather than the zone changes.
I agree with Katherine, but bedtime where you want it & then stick to it. I think at the age she is, at 17min naps, I'd be looking at two days on one day off & also with the self regulating.
IMHO the only thing you can really control is bedtime, which means you can work out when wake up is & adjust bedtime more to fit that & then naps, but the naps will then control the night sleep. I think at 3yo you are better to offer a nap every few days rather than regular short ones.