HI,
Just thought I'd add my support.
We gave up the night feeds about a month ago now and things are much improved. Actually feeds between df and 6am.
DH was the trick, he did our version of shh/pat and it took a while the first night, but we got there.
Over the following few days he ate more during the day and things got easier at night. If he is taking solids I added yoghart and brown rice in his evening meal and I think it helped.
A couple of nights i had to feed him, but generally not. Now I don't even consider it. I didn't step into the settling roll until we were sure he was no longer hungry. He certainly did bang it on with me when I did take over the settling, but got the message and we now have 70% df-6am sleep through.
Hang in there, it is worth the heart ache.
Sharon.