Hi Claire
It is so annoying when they don't seem bothered by having things confiscated isn't it! Charlotte didn't want to get dressed this morning and she knows that later on we're going to the park, so when I said that if she didn't get dressed she wouldn't be able to go to the park, she said no park!
Have you tried a reward system - something like a sticker chart. Turn the bedtime issue round and rather than it being negative (removing toys), try something positive. If you go to bed like a good boy when mummy and daddy say, you get a sticker. Then if he's good throughout the week, at the weekend he gets a treat of his choice as a reward for going to bed so well - a trip to the park, feeding the ducks etc.
I'm sure other people will post with lots of ideas, people are great here!
Good luck! Keep us posted!
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Last night went really well! Not only did she go to bed well, but we had a chat and talked about her staying in her bed all night. She came into our room at 9 o'clock this morning! She had a big cuddle with mummy and daddy and was so proud of herself!