Hi, I have been posting some questions about ds recently but still have some more. Don't know if you need all the info again, but basically he is 4 months old, bf, on a 4 hour EASY, taking two 1.5 to 2 hour naps plus a 30 minute catnap. We are trying to df, but it is not going well, so last night I bf h im for the df and it was much better.
The problem is that he is waking like clockwork every 3 hours from the time of the df, so if df is 10:30, he is waking at 1:30 and 4:30. We have tried W2S for the first waking but he is still waking, so in addition, we are doing pat/sh. It has been taking him about 30 minutes to settle and then he will go back without eating. I have been feeding him for the second waking between 4:30 and 5:30 but he really isn't eating alot and I really think my boob has become a prop
. Even if dh or I pick him up, he does not settle.
So, last night, we decided not to feed him for that second waking and he flipped. Iended up giving in b/c I was worried that he was hungry but again, he ate slowly for like 5 minutes and then fell asleep.
Also, for the first waking, dh was patting him and talking to him while he was crying and he got really upset, so he picked him up. He got even more upset. He really cried for about 10 minutes and then dh left the room and he started settling and within 5 minutes he was asleep.
We have been working on these night wakings for 6 nights now with no improvement in the amount of time it is taking him to go back to sleep.
So, my questions are:
1. is it possible that a baby could get more worked up and frustrated that you are in the room with them? I don't want to leave him CIO but it seems like he is less upset when we aren't there.
2. Can you work on one night waking and still feed for the other one or would that confuse him.? So, if he gets a df at 11:00 and then wakes at 2, do pat/sh for that one, but if he wakes at 5, then feed him b/c that would be a full 6 hours and he may be hungry?
Thanks so much,
Kim