Well, here's how our day went; things were different in that I decided to just go off of Leo's cues and my instincts:
-instead of setting my alarm, I decided to wait till he woke and then go and feed him. After falling asleep around 7pm last night, he woke at 4:40am. I nursed him for about 20 minutes, but it became clear that he was wide awake and ready to get up for the day *sigh*
-we have breakfast at 6:00am. I decide to add a tsp. of coconut oil and some hardboiled egg yolk to his cereal to add more fat and protein. He eats every bite.
-at 7:30am, he shows signs of sleepiness, so I take him to his room and do a quick winddown. Get him into the crib, and he begins to close his eyes and it looks like he's about to drift off to sleep. BUT, he perks right up and proceeds to play in his crib for about 15-20 mins before I get him back up.
-at 8:30am, we have a snack (yogurt and these dried peas that he loves)
-because I know he'll need to go down for a nap before his usual lunchtime, I decide to do an early 'mini lunch' at 10:00am (winter squash puree, brown rice pasta, and about 3 oz. of milk)
-he goes down easily for a nap at 10:35am. sleeps till 12:05, so 1.5 hr nap and he wakes well rested and happy. I bf him when I got him up.
-around 1:00, he has his second 'mini lunch' (avocado, chicken, carrots, and another 3 oz or so of milk)
-Normally I would have tried for a stroller catnap in the late afternoon, but it's frigidly cold and windy here, so that just wasn't going to happen. Instead, I opted for some quiet time in the rocking chair, although I really don't think it gave him the rest he needed. Also, I offered him some cheese at 3:30pm but he wasn't interested.
-dinner at 5pm (grilled cheese sandwich, split pea soup, asparagus and probably 2 oz. of milk)
-he was tired, so we went right to his room to begin getting ready for bed. I nursed him at 5:30, and he looked like he was going to doze off! So we finished and got up to turn off the lights, and put him in his crib. He layed down quietly and I figured he'd be out like a light. But this is where things got ugly. He started making these sputtering noises and blowing raspberries (I could hear there was a lot of saliva in his mouth) and then he stood up and began his vicious gnawing on the crib rail (thank goodness for the rail guard!) So...I decided to give him some Motrin and then rubbed his back a bit to help him relax. Long story short, it took him OVER AN HOUR to fall asleep
I know he was overtired, and that causes them to have a harder time going to sleep, but I've seen him that drowsy at bedtime before and he knocked right out. Anyway, he was asleep by 6:45pm.
It's obvious that the nap was way too early in the day for him to make it to bedtime. But when I offered a nap 3 hrs after he woke, he wouldn't take it. And I also know that whenever I've let him nap anytime after 3pm it spells disaster for bedtime and the subsequent night. So what could I do differently if he wakes at this time again tomorrow?
Also, I'm going to feed him at the 9 hr mark tonight, which will be 2:30am. I hope this helps get him through to at least 5am...