Some other ideas that I use in DDs winddown are giving her the paci, turning on white noise, swaddle (although we're going to drop this, but maybe unzip, open diaper, refasten and re-zip the grobag), lotion or massage (depending on whether it's bath night). Am thinking of trying to find a scented lotion - not too powerful - that she can associate with sleepytime. Then rub it on my hands before naps and bedtime. Then, she'll have a smell association too.
Good luck!