Wise words ladies. So, last night:
DH (I love him!) did til midnight, which was one handing C her dummy. She then woke at 12:30 and i gave her her dummy and did a bit of something (back run? Head stroke? Can't remember!) and she went back to sleep til 2:30. Then I fed her and she slept til 3, calpol/ibuprofen and she slept til 5 (brief wake at 4:30 thanks to z!!).
Z woke for feed at 2 then at 4 but settled with dummy and head stroke but took a while (and woke C so had the dreaded 2 twin chorus!!). Then woke at 5:15.
I think I have to pick my battles, like you are all telling me
. So, how is this for a plan:
Set naps at 9 and 1.
In bed asleep by 7.
I usually say I won't feed til 12, but from now on I won't feed til 2 as they have shown they can manage that long so earlier than that it is habit rather than hunger (is that right?). If they wake before 2 I will resettle a la nippo - shh pat weaning down to nothing
Any time after 5 we will try 10 mins of resettling but will then just call it a day and get up. That half an hour of them dozing lightly while I rub/pat isn't doing anyone any good I don't think.
If I can get them to sleep til 2 for a feed then go back down easily til 5 I will then either try and tackle EW by making morning nap later, or I will try and wean that 2am feed either by making it later and later or by making it shorter and shorter. This is probably about a year away but I like to think one day I will sleep a bit better.......
Am I heading in the right direction do you think?
And as ever, thank you all so much!