Hi girls, guess who? sigh, yes it's me again
After 3 weeks of getting along okay with GW we are back to AP! grrrrrr
I never did have a chance to leave the room. I tried once and he FREAKED OUT. I had to get him up, show him I set up a pillow in his room and only then did he lay back down. Soon after, I was shocked when he went into his crib for a nap (first time in ages I didn't hold him to sleep...as I was working on nights before naps) and he asked me to hold his back...then that night...asked me to hold his back...and now I've been holding him on and off for 7 nights again.
Why I think it may be fear related... We have a glass block window next to the dinner table where occasionally some pidgeons hang out because it's sheltered. (ewwww gross I know but that's another story
) Every now and again he freaks out (and i mean shaking) in his chair and wants to sit in my lap and says "birdies, mama, birdies", even when they aren't there. I say "oh, Cole, the birdies are sitting there for protection from the wind, Hi birdies, thank you for visiting with us" or something to that effect...but he still clings to me for dear life.
Also, we live in a town house and our neighbours children are constantly running up and down the stairs and the pounding can be quite loud. even if it's playtime, cole will stop dead in his tracks and run and cling to me, saying neighbours mama, neighbours. I say, Cole, I understand that is loud. Does it frighten you? and he says yes. I explain that it's just the kids (neighbours) next door playing, not to be afraid, mom and daddy are here for you. I try and demonstrate the noises they are making by being playful and running and making noise too. still, it scares him.
so , think our bedtime woes may be two fold. 1) two year molars moving around (red bum, rash on chin, not eating etc) AND 2) he is now fearful at night. Tried getting him in his crib last night and was pretty successful until the kids started running around and he said "birdies mama birdies"
I do have music playing which he LOVES. In fact, he was babysat a couple of weeks ago, and he was pitching a fit in the crib because my SIL forgot the music. The moment it was on he lay down and went to sleep. Normally I have a humidifier too which bubbles but didn't have it on last night. Perhaps that was it.
Anyway, aside from white noise, is there any way to make him less fearful? Not sure if this is directly a sleep question...or activity...or general. He is 23 months in a couple of days...when perhaps would he understand better and not be afraid.
thanks for any input.