Quote from: Grants on Yesterday at 03:29:32 PM
I just need to decide if I will have the battle now or later, when he is older. Hopefully he will change as he gets older and I won't have any battles!
This is exactly what I thought and luckily it turned out well for us!
yes, this is what I am inclined to think. Remain relaxed about it, offer and have available choices you are comfortable with at his finger tips so HE can feel control over it. When Nick's been having a picky day, I tend to put out a snack tray on a low table with cut up veggies, olives, cherry tomato, crackers. Just a little something, and I don't say a word. I just leave it up to him if he feels like pecking on something.
I had to cool her dinner down before she'd eat it
Nick STILL doesn't like food any warmer than tepid- but maybe because he's got one tooth that appears damaged. I usually serve food up on his plate first, stick it in the fridge for a chill while I serve up mine and DH's! LOL funny that L had that sensitivity too!
But he is a bit too young to grasp the concept of being rude for refusing food. I was thinking that perhaps when he is bit older (3 or 4YO) I will be able to explain the rude/hurting granny’s feelings for not wanting to eat the food etc
IMO, I think he is a bit young, and perhaps there are some food texture/taste sensitivities that he is unable to verbally express, so I'd not worry too much about hurt feelings yet. I'm usually proactive and tell grandparents some of Nick's favorites and I bring food with me too, as the ILs are TERRIBLE about having age appropriate foods. ... My mom on the other hand will specifically buy foods of Nick's liking/choices - for ex- she made a seafood feast for him last weekend- lobster, scallops, steamers, haddock all homecooked.
So, if you have the uberdoting grandparents that LOVE to make his favorite foods clue them in. As your LO gets older keep talking about manners at the table. We have a 'no thank you' bite rule. SO even if he refuses something, I'll remind him to take a no thank you bite out of courtesy for the cook. My DH has been a really good example for gratitude at the table, so whoever cooks always gets comments about how lovely the dinner looks, and thank you for making me some food. Now Nick is starting to just spontaneously say, "Thank you for the dinner- it was really tasty!". Because that is what he hears Daddy saying over and over.
just some food for thought lol