1-0 in a dreadful mess 😫

[Sarsheep]

Hi ladies, my lo is 32 months-and we've been having shenanigans with sleep with the 1-0, capped nap to 45 min which been better-but had various night issues-bro sick, other extenuating circumstances which has disturbed him and past few nights he's been crying out at 3am ish-but asleep then up between 5:15-5:30(this has always been OT for us)
What would you do? Big nap today to try and reset as such?? He's awful when I wake him from capped nap! He looks visibly exhausted and I'm concerned he's not getting enough rest-and is v susceptible to OT!

Any tips gratefully received 😊

[jessmum46]

Try an early nap but capped to same length - may not be quite so hard to wake if morning A time is shorter?  When DD got that tired during the transition she  would go down after around 5h A time.  You could AP in the car instead if bed likely to be a battle?

[Sarsheep]

Sorry only just seen this!
So after his 5:15 up I decided to let him have a long nap to catch up-he had 2 hrs and was then asleep by 7:40 and slept till 6:55! 😀
I guessed this was him caught up so we did did hr in bed yest napped 45 mins-asleep by 7:15 but up at 5:40 😔 is he still OT needs more catching up nap?? Or had he caught up and nap too long?? He seemed shattered so was in bed at 12:30
So confused!!!

[jessmum46]

Could well still be a bit of OT, that was a 10.5h night which would be OT here.  I would maybe stick with the called nap but pull BT a bit earlier for a while x

[Sarsheep]

Ok cool-would you do an hr or 45 mins?? That kinda length? He's shattered crying for nap 😔

[jessmum46]

Maybe go back to an hour for now and then tweak in a few days if needed once he's caught up x

[Sarsheep]

Thank you! Not sure why I didn't think of EBT, it's worked well for us in past! Here's hoping!! X

[Sarsheep]

Ok so we went for bath at 5:50-settled in bed at 6:20-hoping for 6:40 asleep time-he's just gone now-so not really ebt! 😁 he was peaceful just wanting extra cuddles etc! Maybe the hr nap was a touch long??? I guess we'll see how night goes-he had opp to be asleep earlier! He got upset as I've taken his bro out of their shared room so he doesn't get woken by him early doors-he misses him 😔 it's a process I guess!! X

[Sarsheep]

Sorry posted too soon! Would you look at keeping the day at 13hrs and adjusting the nap as needs? Then shortening day when nnd start? We've done set BT before with adjustable naps.. Thanks

[Sarsheep]

Scrap that-he's not asleep!
Maybe an hr is too much-I have been giving him in an hr in bed-but often unsure how much if that is sleep-today I gave him an hr from when he was sparko... Confusing!!!

[jessmum46]

Maybe a touch too much then, hope the night goes ok.

There are many routes through the 1-0.  We did what we could to preserve the long night which meant pushing and cutting the nap, then when we got frequent nap refusals we did set BT, offered nap/quiet time every day and offered an AP catnap of 15-20 mins in the car if too many refusals in a row meant an overtired grumpy DD.  We did set BT of 7pm if she napped and 6.30pm if not, then once naps became rare our new set BT became 6.30pm.

[Sarsheep]

Thanks! He's v peaceful now! So here's hoping! Xxx

[bongabees]

Hi, just seen this Sarah. You know what a mess our 1-0 transition was... Well in the end we just ditched the nap cold turkey and had to ride out the OT mess and had very EBT. O still wakes early when OT and generally sleeps longer with an EBT than a catch up nap. Nap always equals short night here, but EBT usually gives us an 11-12 hour night. It's so hard to get the balance right! 

[Sarsheep]

Hey Anna, we do ok capping nap at 45-but a few random things have thrown him into OT spiral! And now that he shares a room with Sam (bunkbed shenanigans!!) if he wakes Sam early he really struggles as he's v  v HSN!
ATM Sam is in spare room which is rubbish but it means he gets his rest! Xx

[Sarsheep]

5:30 😭😭😭😭
What do I do today? I thought at least he's def not ot as longer nap-took a while to settle-but maybe he is?? Or has he had enough sleep?? 7:15-5:30 only 10:15hr night.
45 min nap and 6:30 bed???