Thanks for the quick responses. Here are answers to some of the questions you guys have had:
- waking at the same time: he wakes anywhere from 11:30-4 am for the first waking, NEVER consistent, the second is ALWAYS between 5/5:30 am.
The second is the one we've tried wake to sleep with intermittent success. I'm always tempted to try that again for that waking. The first waking is anyone's guess. I first thought he was waking b/c of coughing from a cold. But it's gone on too long.
- as for the early bf - I managed to get him to sleep w/o it every day week before last...not feeding him until 6 or 7 am when he work for good. He STILL keeps waking at 5 am. So...I don't think he's hungry. He's also eating like a horse during the day. His belly looks like it's going to pop before he goes to bed he's so full.
- naps...he stays up 3 hours before any nap without a hitch. We've thought he might be starting a very slow move towards one nap...but not ready yet. Don't know for sure. I mainly think the short am nap is part of that move and partly b/c we've had a crazier schedule the last couple of weeks with the holidays. Before Thanksgiving he was taking two 1.25-1.5 hr. naps like clockwork, so I'm a little nervous to jump in on shifting to one too early.
- how we help him back to sleep at night. For the longest...any night waking only took a quick pat and a pacifier, if that. He can and has put himself back to sleep before. However, lately, that has not done the trick. He screams and screams...and has for as long as 30 min. with my hubby standing there patting away, trying to calm him. Only whenever I actually am the one to come does he calm...and not unless I come quickly. Then I must admit that we caved in to rocking him to sleep b/c it was the only way to calm him down. Otherwise we were ending up for 2 hours at a stretch in the middle of the night. Now, if I am the first one in the room, scoop him up, and rock, he's out and back in the crib asleep in 15-20 min. max.
-an earlier bedtime makes sense to me (If I can get my hubby to be okay with that.)
Do you think I should combine that with trying wake-to-sleep again in the night for the 5 am? Or should we attempt wi/wo in the night?
There was a time of about a month where he put himself to sleep at bedtime and sleep straight through the night. Wish I knew what changed. Sometimes I think it must have been separation anxiety that started it all b/c he went to being VERY hard to get to sleep at bedtime as well as night wakings.
Thank you SO much for trying to help us get a new sleep plan. We truly want to be consistent and to help him learn how to have good sleep habits.