Hi
I have 20 month old twins and one of my twins Steven, has been waking in the night for some time now and i am at my wits end with him.
I have tried the controlled crying route, the pick me up and put down routine, night lights - everything i can think of, he even has a drink with him in his cot which is usually empty in the morning
Ive cut and pasted the questions from an earlier email which will give some background i hope!
What’s nap routine? he usually has a nap at around lunchtime, i did try and drop his nap to see if that would help him sleep better but he still wakes in the night no matter whether he sleeps in the daytime or not
How long are naps? He usually sleeps anything up to an hour
What's bedtime routine? Time? his routine is the usual, tea, playtime, bath, book and then bed for 7pm, he goes later than his sister to enable her to go to sleep without being distrurbed by him as sometimes he doesnt want to go to bed
Do you bottle or breastfed?? he is no longer bottle fed as they are both on solids
How many wakes per night? usually once but sometimes twice, he can wake from anytime after 1am
What’s your LO like when waking at night? How long is he/she up? he just gets upset, and can be up for as long as 2 hours - he is fully awake and coherant, not like he is having a night fright
When you go to him/her is she fussing or crying? Or is it a mantra cry? hmm not sure what a mantra cry is but he calls for you, and if you dont go in to him, he gets louder and louder. When i go to him he is usually sat up and then he will start talking to you, usually pointing and saying teddy or something similar
What have you tried to settle?? i usually go into his room i normally dont talk to him just go in to him and lay him down, stroke his head and then leave
Are there developmental issues such as teething or milestones? no development issues that i know of, he has a glue ear but was checked last week as i thought this may have been the problem for the waking i.e. was he in pain but the doctor gave him the all clear
Do they have a prop? If so what is it? he has a doggy he takes to bed but nothing that he is really attached to
Do they have a lovie? no
I really hope you will be able to help me as this has gone on for so long now, i cant remember the last full nights sleep i had. Steven's twin sister is fantastic at going to sleep, she goes up at about 6:30pm and sleeps through up until 9am sometimes - more often than not i have to wake her in a morning