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[Fiver]

Keep trying.  She might just do it one day soon xx

[twogirlsmommy]

So update.  She is still not latching and I am only able to pump about an ounce every 3 hrs.  My incision is causing us issues at the moment and today is a crying day.  I'm very lucky as she is a very calm baby so far.  Trying not feel quilty and just focus on the fact that if she eats 8 times a day she is at least getting 8 ounces of breast milk a day.  Also trying not to feel the guilt from people who think I am not trying hard enough.

[lily_layne]

Also trying not to feel the guilt from people who think I am not trying hard enough

I'm saddened to hear that people would think/say that.  To me it seems that you are trying very hard and 8 oz of hard-won breast milk a day is far better than none.  (((hugs))) 

[Fiver]

Big hugs.  The early days are so hard and it sounds like you're doing an absolutely amazing job for your little girl.  Anyone who says you're not trying hard enough needs a good kick up the bottom, frankly!

[weaver]

Quote from: Brennasmommy on Today at 16:46:09

    Also trying not to feel the guilt from people who think I am not trying hard enough

I'm saddened to hear that people would think/say that.  To me it seems that you are trying very hard and 8 oz of hard-won breast milk a day is far better than none.  (((hugs))) 

^^^^ this. Those people have no idea how hard it is.  You're doing a great job in very difficult circumstances.  (((()))))

[*Ali*]

Hugs. You can only do your best hun.

[*Kara*]

Just dropping off some hugs Caroline...

[CCCmom27]

((((hugs))))

[Erin M]

big (((hugs)))

[~inbalance~]

Hugs xxx

[koe2moe]

hugs!!  you are doing your best!!  xx

[twogirlsmommy]

Thank you ladies.  Today was the first day I had to feed pump and get out of the house to pick dd up from preschool and it was stressful to say the least.  Some feeds I am able to get almost 2 ounces others I only get a 1/2 an ounce.  Eventually I will have to move over to the bottle feeding board but I truly thank you for all the support.  I didn't have you guys when I had dd1 and I was a mess and it was a very hard time for both dh and myself.  This time I feel like dh and I are more grounded in our focus and having your extra support helps me to remember what is important in the grand scheme of things.

[Fiver]

Still no joy with getting her latched on?
Any further help available from the LC?

[Sam-n-Max's Mommy]

BM,

(((Hugs))) - I had a really hard time bfing DS1 and stopped after 6 weeks.  I was miserable because it just wasn't working for us.  I gave it my best, but sometimes that is not good enough for some people! I had a terrible time having to explain why to other people and felt very judged.  My neighbors were the worst and it's really hard when people don't think you tried hard enough and you feel bad enough about it to begin with.  First of all, it's no one else's business how you end up feeding your child! I don't get why people think that they should have a say in a mother's choice of feeding method for their LO.  You are doing everything right and trying so hard.  No matter what ends up happening with bfing, you are giving it your all and that shows what a good and loving mommy you are.

PS - I hear you on the stress of bfing, pumping, and having to get out of the house.  DS1 starts preschool on April 1 and we have to leave the house at 8:15.   I've been trying to get into this schedule this week as practice.  DS2 seems to want to nurse around 7/7:30 most mornings this week and he takes close to an hour sometimes (with the stopping and starting/falling asleep).  7:30 is when DS1 has to eat breakfast and then get dressed. Yikes! I think I might just pump a little earlier and give DS2 a bottle with EBM to speed up the process.  I think it's hard now because our LOs are too little to be in a routine right now so that makes everything unpredictable. 

You're doing a great job!!!!

[nona]

I hear you on the stress of bfing, pumping, and having to get out of the house. 

it gets easier! ((hugs)) bm