How old is your child? 9.5 wks
What’s his/her daily routine? 3 hour easy, before ths week was feeding her more often as thought she was hungry, but she would cry at feeds, and have realised that she was actually finished, so was crying
What’s nap routine? naps each 3hr cycle by day from wake up at 7am. one long sleep of 2 hrs, has to be woken for next feed, was usually from around 11am, but moving more towards 2pm. Occ 2 long sleeps, but more often 1st 2 naps are 45 mins, and working on extending them to 1.5 hrs. 45 min nap around 5pm
How long are naps? See above
What's bedtime routine? Time? Well establised routine for over a month now. was 7pm but moving more towards 6.30pm as she is tired and becomes fractious. feed at around 6pm if looking hungry, then bath, massage, pjs, feed, and usually goes down very easily, drowsy but awake
Do you bottle or breastfed?? Breastfeed
How much? or how long? Usually 10mins first side, 5-10 mins second
If breastfed.. one side or both?? (at each feed) Previously just the one side (did this with my son, no probs.) could express 3oz easily from a single side in 10 mins. but she seems to cry of i offer her the same side on feeding, so taken to offering both. expressed for df tonight, 2 hrs after bedtime and had 3oz/ 120 ml in just over 10 mins from the 2 sides, but there was more there, stopped as she won't take that much at df
How many wakes per night? was 1-2 but esclating. waking before df now regularly, then another 3-4 wakings 3 out of past 4 nights. before that had a few days of 1-2. last week she was also waking pretty often. Usually up between 9.30 and 10.30pm, then at around 1-2am, 3-3.30am, then every 45 ming to an hour/ hour and a half after that
What’s your LO like when waking at night? How long is he/she up? wants to suck, will suck frantically on dummy if offered but looking for breast. will take a feed, but never huge (other than when she was waking just the once earlier this week), often falling asleep at breast within a couple of minutes. but just now (up from 3.30am) wanted breastnot dummy but not sucking as though she wanted a feed, but upset if i took her off - handed over to dh to settle with shush pat.
When you go to him/her is she fussing or crying? Or is it a mantra cry? not sure i know what a mantra cru is. I listen for her, but a definite cry before i go in. I will try counting next time though. SHe also seems to be fighting her swaddle - has done from birth in full swaddle (like tonight) until she frees a hand, so often swaddle her with one arm out as she accepts this and it stops her from startling.
What have you tried to settle?? Dummy, feeds, shush pat (she fights this). was aiming to work on daytime naps first to extend the short ones before tacklingnight time as doing both was getting too much. we were offering dummy in arms at night to settle before transferring her in place of feeds.
What do you do for A time and how long is it? She is up a total of 1- 11/4 hrs each cycle, remembering feeds are over in around 20 mins or less! We talk, sing, a few mins tummy time and/ or mat time, or in the swing looking at the toys there (but not usually swinging). or hang laundry outside. went out after long nap to visit past 2 days as hadn't been out much at all this week to work on EASY. out for around an hour only. but big crowd where we were today, yesterdays outing was v low key.
Are there developmental issues such as teething or milestones? No. had her immunisations on Wednesday, low grade fever for a couple of days, given paracetamol. Slept from 11pm-5.45 am on Wednesday, getting worse daily since!
Have you introduced cereal? Why, how much, and how many times a day? (for LO’s under 6 months) No way!
Do they have a prop? If so what is it? nothing fixed. have only introduced dummy in past 2 wks s part of wind down, btu often she doesn't need it so don't offer it. was using in a lot earlier in week for naps, but stopped that. now use it briefly as wind down but usually out before going into cot if used at all, or if she wakes early from nap to stall next feed - nut aiming to use shush pat instead.
Do they have a lovie? Not yet, too young
Additional info: returned from 5 day interstate trip earlier this week, not on EASY before Tuesday. Wakings then v similar to now, but a couple of weeks before had been only 1-2 times per night plus df, and settling easily. 2 hours behind us n terms of times. went to usual bedtime immediatley.
SHe has just gone off to sleep now it has taken an hour of dh using shush pat, although had to pick her up twice in that time and shush pat, to put her down drowsy (first time she cried more, so had to pick up to calm her. second time ale to continue shush pat in cot till asleep)
Need help - when shoudl I feed and when should i not overnight? whatabout the waking before the dreamfeed - ideally i would like to get an early night in and let dh give ebm, but if she wakes up she gets upset unless she has a bf. takes bottle occassionally during day and fusses a bit but not as badly as at night. as i have said, was aiming to work on day sleep, but getting so tired, and trying to lengthen the day sleep is meaning i can't nap by day. plsu have to get my 3 yo from kinder at 3,30pm which is prob going to coincide with the one long sleep... will see if my mother in law can help with this again this week but don't think she will do it every day...
Thanks as can't cope with this for much longer, and would appreciate a definite plan of action
deb
